The bar manager is the boyfriend of her divorcee' friend. Recently, the husband found she was drinking with him and his buddies during the girlsnight at her girlfriend's apartment. She was vague on the details of how long etc. When he told her he would confront the guy, she changed her mind about introducing them on their husband and wife date.. I think we all know what is going on, he doesn't want to hear it. Opinions?
2007-03-27 05:46:17 · 22 answers · asked by ralph 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So why is she on a date with her husband with another man on her mind? She's all but slept with other men before, took their children to visit other men he would have in their house no matter her husband's protests.
2007-03-27 06:46:04 · update #1
Smells fishy. I'm not wild about wives having girls' nights out where they drink themselves silly (ditto guys' night out for the husbands). It just begs for unhappy things to happen. Hanging out with hubby, having a few drinks then jumping into bed together is a much better "our night out"--or "date" (Darling Hubby and I have very nice dates!). Doesn't sound like a rock solid marriage in the first place. There's definitely a lot of work needed on this marriage. I wouldn't go making accusations and confrontations, but a lot of quiet talk is needed here. It might best be undertaken through a marriage counselor. Good luck!
2007-03-27 05:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by katbyrd41 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make an issue where there isnt one. But I am a firm believer that a married woman has no business being out drinking with men her husband doesnt know. Seems a bit scandalous...but then again, I dont know the wife personally. If she's a trustworthy sort, why bother with it...If she's a trollop that has a history of just going out and pulling up her skirt, he shouldnt have married her in the first place.
2007-03-27 05:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really, it's very simple.
"she changed her mind about introducing them on their husband and wife date"
If a wife feels that she cannot or does not want to introduce her husband to a friend of hers, then there is something wrong. It doesn't really matter who or what it is. That a partner in a marriage is forming emotional connections to people outside the marriage that he or she doesn't want the other partner to find out or be a part of is emotional adultery.
There may be something going on, or there could be nothing. That only thing that is definite and is relavant right now is that the wife does not want her husband in a part of her life that includes other people. I'd be hurt and mad as hell if my bf says he doesn't WANT to intruduce me to his friends.
2007-03-27 06:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by Elisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I think the man made a faux pas.. he should have met the guy. He might have turned out to be some geeky guy that he had no reason to be jealous of and now he lost the opportunity. Not all bartenders are Tom Cruise.
She on the other hand, needs to stop calling it a "girl's night out" if males will attend the event.
2007-03-27 05:52:33 · answer #4 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's hoping that there can be some double-dating nights, that the four of them can make an adult friendship group. But then his jealousy and possessive reaction put her off.
Shouldn't assume it's all about sex and affairs. Just ask her why she wants her husband to know her friend's boyfriend, and find out for yourself what's up.
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2016-12-08 12:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you really don't know what's going on...
It might be a case of Girl Talk. See, women will occasionally adopt a pet male that they let sit in on their sessions of Girl Talk. It is never wise to let your BF or husband meet these pet males as they have all the secrets they've heard tucked safely away inside their heads, ready to spill...
2007-03-27 05:50:53 · answer #7 · answered by dingobluefoot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like an assumption is being made here that is not necessarily true. If the woman were having an affair, she would not invite her husband to meet the guy.
Take care,
Troy
2007-03-27 05:56:13 · answer #8 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well could be what you're thinking! But, it could also be that she is trying to avoid an unnecessary conflict! You can never be sure in these cases but if you suspect something is going on 9 out of 10 it is!
2007-03-27 05:50:25 · answer #9 · answered by Maria C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She likes to drink with men
2007-03-27 05:50:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋