I suffer from chronic depression, and on my worst days, I am mean and nasty to almost everyone I come in contact with, especially my family. Why, when I love my family, do I say and do things that are hurtful? I'm hoping that if I can understand the psychology, I can change my behavior.
2007-03-27 05:39:21 · 6 answers · asked by not yet 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Thanks for the compassionate advice to all who have offered it.
I am hoping to attract some responses from people with academic credentials in psychology. I am looking for an analysis that is a little more detailed than what has been offered thus far.
2007-03-27 08:47:01 · update #1
We need to vent to someone who won't physically attack us. We need to let rip in a safe environment.
2007-03-27 05:47:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are not feeling well, it is not uncommon that you dont have any patience at all. Your loved ones around you are the easy target because deep inside you, you know that no matter what you say, hurtful as it may, will be taken with a grain of salt because your family knows you. There are ways to control this, try to mentally count 1-10 before saying or doing anything, ask yourself within those period, why do i want to say it, will it help me if i say it, will it help the person i'm saying it too. The thing with chronic depression is , u let everything slide most of the time because you dont have the energy to act on anything , when that depression lifts, that's when you are able to say things when something or someone offends you. You need to see your therapist and discuss all these
2007-03-27 05:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand that being mean and nasty is a choice, depression isn't. You have to be aware of the fact that you CAN choose to stay quiet and remove yourself whenever a situation arises that causes these outbursts. Obviously, depression is very painful and I am so sorry that you suffer from it. You need to make a concerted effort to remove yourself from the family on your bad days if you feel that you can not control unwanted behavior. Saying hurtful words to your family will alienate them and cause further pain inflicted upon yourself; you need to divert your attention until you calm down. It is a choice you must be willing to make for yourself and your family; it is controllable. You may consider anger management therapy along with treatment for depression. I'm so sorry you're having a difficult time. Take care, be well.
2007-03-27 05:52:41 · answer #3 · answered by leslie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what the exact psychological basis is. . .
but the old adage is true. . .
Misery loves company.
2007-03-27 05:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by AthenaGenesis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure..but are you seeing a counselor...that is a GREAT question to ask them, and a great place to vent. It has helped me A LOT.
2007-03-27 05:43:16 · answer #5 · answered by *Cole* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its called being a dick
2007-03-27 05:43:10 · answer #6 · answered by BOBBY 1 · 0⤊ 5⤋