Also any pearls of wisdom as I will be separating soon. We have tried counseling for over ten years and the conclusion is my wife is waiting me out. I need to protect myself and know my rights as well as assuring that my children are the least affected by this.
2007-03-27 05:27:52 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Can anyone give advise that has been in this position?
2007-03-29 06:49:26 · update #1
KathyW, what I mean about waiting me out is that she wants the divorce. She ended marriage counseing and will not seek individual counseling even though her Phychiatrist has recommended it. She wants me to leave so she can go to court and say I abandoned the family.
2007-04-02 01:28:41 · update #2
first pray constantly and for all things. definitely don't stay in this situation, it is bad for the kids. make sure you don't abandon them, stay close and involved. make sure you get a place where they can stay with you for long periods of time like 50% of the time or as much as you can. and make sure their needs are being met for food, clothes, schooling. stay involved in their activities and with their schools and health care needs. just remain active and involved. even if you need to go through a third party who is neutral like a family member or family friend. don't bad mouth the mother in front of the kids EVER and don't allow anyone else to do it either. it's not their problem and don't make it their problem by going through the kids with messages unless they are written and sealed in an envelope. there is probably a group in your area who help men with these issues, contact them. good luck.
2007-04-03 20:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by jewelmatch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly do you mean by your wife 'waiting you out'? Do you mean that you have been trying to convince her the marriage is over and she wants to keep working on it? Ten years is a long time but I'll bet when you started, you wanted to be out of the marriage in a year or two! Your children will be affected, don't kid yourself. Try the separation and seriously consider going back to counseling - keep trying until you find the person who has the help you and your wife need from a therapist. If you're wife has been willing to do this for 10 years, I consider that a good thing, not bad.
2007-04-02 00:41:59 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it has taken you 10yrs to realize it won't work, I hope you
don't wait that long to fight for the kids.
I admire you for hanging in there don't misunderstand me
here.
I don't know the circumstances, and don't mean to be
judgmental.
The children will be affected, and that is when you try to
encourage and make it known it wasn't their fault without
placing them in the middle.
It will also help if the two of you don't talk bad about each
other to them.
Seek advice from an attorney ASAP.
Good Luck
2007-04-02 08:13:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray about it. Jesus is awesome!!!
2007-03-31 19:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
please speak to legal counsel -- they can best offer you advise
2007-03-27 12:32:30 · answer #5 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋