Hard or soft???

Question

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If your 15 year old son called to ask you to bring him lunch money because he forgot it at home, would you take it to him or let him go without to teach him a lesson in responsibility?

I was at home, finishing up a late brunch with my husband. I didn't have anything else pressing on my agenda (I work from home.)

If I dropped everything and took it to him, am I a softie and doing him an injustice by not teaching him to be more responsible? If I told him to wait until he got home at 2:30pm, am I being a hard a$$, but teaching him to think more for himself?

Your honest opinions are very much appreciated :)

Answer 1

Since my son is almost 15, & daughter 12, I usually give them (3) times during the entire year that I will take them things - just this morning I took my son's vocab cards to him - 1st thing this year. They need grace - as we all do. There are plenty of opportunities during the week, school, home, church, etc. where they can learn to be responsible, which my husband & I are strict about but to also teach them "grace" is just as important - just our opinion. Good mom. :)

Answer 2

That kid has got to grow up sometime. He might as well learn now that the world is not going to bail him out. Two hours of hunger isn't going to hurt him. Well, it will a little, but that's the point.

On the other hand, does he manage his own money? As in, do you give it to him all at once and let him handle it, or does he normally get it from you every day? That would make a difference. If he's not used to being responsible then you can't really expect him to be responsible.

Answer 3

Well I guess it would depend. Is it the first time he forgot his lunch money? Is he usually a good kid, like does he do good in school, cleans his room when he is told. If he don't usually forget his money then I don't think it would be so wrong to take it to him. But if it's a habit and every time he forgets he calls you because he knows you'll run it right down to him, then teach him a lesson. He won't starve to death b4 2:30. And maybe next time he'll remember his money.

Answer 4

He's 15 and still growing and a boy! He needs to eat, keep that blood sugar at a good level during school. Give him some extra chores instead or take away a privilege.

Answer 5

I would have never called home for that. I was never allowed to call home unless I was missing an appendage. I think at 15 he won't starve to death anyhow. I think a lesson is in order.

Answer 6

he has to be responsible sometime. my son always forgot everything.lunch money,homework,permission slips.he was my baby until a teacher wouldn't let him go to lunch or recess because his work wasn't done.after a few times,i really agreed with her,and he got the message. he wasn't dumb either,he just knew i would do it. today he is a school teacher,has a private pilot's license,and owns his own plane.don't baby your son!

Answer 7

the first time i would take to him. but after that no i wouldn't i would teach in a lesson.

Answer 8

How often does it happen? Once? Sure, bring it to him.
But if it happens very often let the little beggar starve! (;

Answer 9

I would bring it to him. Unless it happened ALL the time. I've forgotten stuff before.

Answer 10

well, if this is the 1st time he ahs done it, take it. if he has done it before, waiting till 2:30 wont kill him.