I HAVE MET THE MAN OF MY LIFE, THE ONLY PROBLEM IS THAT HE IS MARRIED.WE ARE BOTH MADLY IN LOVE AND CALL EACH OTHER MILION TIMES AND SEE EACH OTHER 2-3 TIMES A WEEK.HE DOESN'T HAVE ANY CHILDREN , AND HE'S ONLY MARRIED FOR 3 YEARS.
DO YOU THINK IS FAIR TO PUT PRESSURE ON HIM TO LEAVE HIS WIFE.....?THE SECOND PROBLEM IS THE DISTANCE...HE 'S JOB AND HOUSE ARE 85 MILES FROM ME......I LOVE HIM TO DEATH BUT I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO ?
2007-03-27 05:24:04 · 18 answers · asked by Juliet 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YOU PEOPLEARE SO CRUEL...YOU NEVER BEEN IN LOVE ? OR DID SOMETHING WRONG IN YOUR LIFES ?
2007-03-27 05:40:15 · update #1
IF he loves you as much as you think , you should not have to pressure him to leave his wife,, it should be his idea. Have you discussed with him where this relationship is going ? where does he want it to end ? Know where you stand honey or you will get your heart broken. If he is serious about you and his relationship with you then you can start thinking of what to do or relocating to be close to him. Best of Luck
2007-03-27 05:54:02 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to like this but find a new Romeo. One that's unattached. This guy seems perfect because you are only sharing small snippets of time. He probably makes sure that those times are wonderful but that's not 24/7 reality. His wife sees all of his life, faults and all. It's unfair to you to stay there waiting for this guy even for these little snippets of time. It's like getting a cookie but being locked out of the bakery. It's unfair to the wife that he's fooling around with you. The dude is messing up. And what makes you think that he won't just leave you for the next "flavor of the month"? You've got to be smarter about this. Walk away.
2007-03-27 12:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put pressure on him to leave his wife - and see how far you get! Nine chances out of ten - he'll not leave and you'll be left out in the cold.
Be careful what you wish for!! Do you really want to do his laundry, cook his meals and listen to him complain all the time??? Right now you have it made - all the "fun" and none of the work.... You'll be OK until someone else younger, prettier and smarter comes along.
Why do you feel your his one and only? His wife felt that way at one time too....Once a cheater - always a cheater! Feel sorry for his poor wife - you may be the first but I guarantee you won't be his last affair!!
Move on before you get to badly hurt!!
2007-03-27 12:32:06 · answer #3 · answered by brenny_boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you are seeing a married man. He shouldn't have married his wife if he didn't want to remain faithful. Secondly, what would make you think that since he's cheating on his wife he wouldn't turn around and do the exact same thing to you, even years down the line?
Me...I would walk away from the situation and move on with my life before I ended up getting hurt, and find someone who wasn't married and isn't unfaithful. A promise is a promise, and he broke his.
2007-03-27 12:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by Spirit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with someone that cheats on his wife? IF and that's a HUGE IF, he truely loved you, he'd be a real man and NOT be cheating on his wife, he would have been honest with her and disolved his marriage FIRST, and then starting dating you afterwards. The chances of it working out is highly unlikely. Would you honestly really trust him knowing that he did this too his wife?
See you in 5 years when your posting something along the lines of "I'm still dating a married man...why won't he leave his wife?" Get out now before you waste years and years of your time and your heart on him.
2007-03-27 12:32:28 · answer #5 · answered by occasionallyweird 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait on him to tell his wife leave little signs for his wife to find like lipstick on his boxers call his home at all hours of the day and hangup but do it from a phone were it can't be traced back to you. and if all else fails have a friend call his wife up and tell her and if he gets mad at you dump him because he was never intending on leaving his wife anyway.
2007-03-27 12:45:58 · answer #6 · answered by bluemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want a man who is a liar and a cheat? He probably tells his wife he loves her. It is probably not a coincidence that you are 85 miles from his home. Easier to hide his affair with that distance.
2007-03-27 12:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't listen to me, but affairs virtually never lead to a successful marriage. There are success stories, but they are rare.
Why? Affairs are built on lust (unsustainable), lies, deceit, sneaking around, and all the excitment from it. Affairs don't have bills, inlaws visits, busted water heaters etc. All the fun, none of the problems.
Marriages are built on trust, honesty and dedication. All the things lacking in an affair. Your "successful" affair will be a bomb of a marriage. I guarantee it.
Stay away from married guys. Please. Don't be that trashy wh o r e that everyone thinks badly of.
2007-03-27 12:42:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This isn't love, it's lust. If he wanted to leave his wife and be with you, he would do so without pressure. The truth is he isn't interested in you. Find someone that is available and in your area, get to know them, and then see if you understand what love is. And in the meantime, try to grow up and act like an adult ... which I assume you are.
2007-03-27 12:47:01 · answer #9 · answered by Roberta 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are a home wrecker lady! Bail now before someone shoots you, his wife might find out and come kick your butt! Don't go after him for a relationship, he is already in one. If he does leave her he will do the same thing to you and cheat on you and leave you for another. KARMA! What goes around comes around.
2007-03-27 12:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by MOM OF ONE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋