OK well hear is the problem. My boyfriend who is 25 years old, We just bought our first house together, recently he told his parents that we were dating. and he went and told his dad this first because he knew his mom was going to freak out because me and him have dated before. anyways now his mom is so mad at him because he lied to her and didn't tell her first. It's got so bad that she even called his work today to see if he was really there or not. We live 4 hours away. I dont know what to do. We dont want to have to break up just to make things better. Please help me understand what kind of rights he has as an adult? because he loves his paretns alot but he just wants her to leave him alone and let him make his own decions.
2007-03-27 05:21:15 · 4 answers · asked by sexylittlemisstweetybird83 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We live 4 hours away from his parents, and this has nothing to do with my boyfriend being mature, I was wanting to know what can we do to make her leave him alone. She called his work, and she says she needs to snoop cause she can't trust him.
2007-03-27 05:37:39 · update #1
I ment leave him alone in the sence of letting him make his own decions and not phoning his work, I understand that he wants her in his life and I know that, but I dont like how she is making him choose between me or her.
2007-03-27 05:39:13 · update #2
The only way she will back off is if he steps up to the plate and lets her know himself that he is an adult now and he's making his own decisions. This is the only way he will get through this.
The way I told my mother was, "When you are paying my bills and feeding/clothing me, then you can once again keep tabs on me." That gave her the message.
2007-03-27 15:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by Spirit 2 · 8⤊ 0⤋
IF he is an adult he should have had the balls to be truthful and upfront about your relationship from the beginning rather than "sneaking" around and hiding it like a middleschool child. Obviously he isn't mature enough to make his own decisions since he thinks he has to "hide" the fact that he makes them. He needs to grow up.
2007-03-27 05:31:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
as adults you have every right to do the things you feel is right, but as for his mother she is upset now and may stay that way for a little while but she will get over it. she may have felt like she was not important to him enough to talk to her about this. she wants to be a part of his life no matter how yall feel about that, she is his mom after all, but don't worry she will come around. good luck to all of yall.
2007-03-27 05:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by laurie s 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
They just need time to cope with this. They'll eventually get over it, it may just take a little bit of time. It may be a little rough till then but, just stick together. Next time though, no matter how hard it is, try not waiting so long to tell them things. And no matter what they say then, just say Please respect my decision. Good luck hun.
2007-03-27 05:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by kMaz 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋