2007-03-27 05:17:01 · 29 answers · asked by Raymond F 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really feel for you and believe it or not, I understand. My husband was murdered 15 years ago today - it's like it was yesterday to me. I will never forget him & will probably never know love again - I hope it will be different for you. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Try this:
SOMETIMES
Sometimes I wonder why you went away
Sometimes I know the answer and sometimes I wish
Sometimes that we could start all over
Sometimes I just want to say ‘I love you’
Sometimes I wonder what it was about you
Sometimes that made you so unique
Sometimes I cry to think you are gone
Sometimes I pretend, sometimes I really do
Sometimes I really think you’re still here
Sometimes I feel you all around me
Sometimes it is so real I can touch it
Sometimes I will find a single tear
Sometimes in the corner of my eye
Sometimes I think it belongs to you
Sometimes I just want to hear your voice
Sometimes I just want to die
Sometimes I yearn for you so bad that
Sometimes I do not think I will make it another day
Sometimes I always do so fat, but
Sometimes I think you know I had that
Love that everyone seeks but cannot find
And lost that love most only dream about
Sometimes I miss you so bad it breaks my heart
Sometimes I love you more than any words could say
Sometimes I love you so deeply that often
Sometimes it ravages me and tears me apart
Sometimes I know why you went away
Sometimes I do not. And I know that
Sometimes you had every right to leave
Sometimes it does not seem fair - like today
Sometimes, all the time, and for eternity
I love you no matter what.
2007-03-27 05:21:53 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh man, I am so sorry for your loss! No one really knows what to say at a time like this. I guess all I can say is accept any support which is offered to you from family on both sides, and friends. Keep your wife's memory alive for the children - they are going through a lot. Keep tabs on them closely over the next while to make sure their grief isn't "unhealthy" - if it seems so, maybe they need to see a counsellor. As for you, you have lost the love of your life, and I can't even imagine what that is like. You have two children from her, and so always have a part of her with you. Good luck to you....
2007-03-27 07:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry....I have not experienced that and hope I don't any time soon, but I have a close friend who lost her husband five months ago. I can only say take one day at a time, and let others help you. You want to be strong and the best way to do that is to lean on other people who love you and care about you. Listen to your children and let them feel how they need to feel. We all experience grieving differently, so there is no right or wrong way to feel. I wish you the very best and can only encourage you to remember the good times and keep her alive for your children's sake.
2007-03-27 05:22:26 · answer #3 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. Hold your kids close and remember your wife as she was. Talk about all the wonderful and fun things you did together. She is in a better place and one day you will see her again, but for now know that she is looking down at you and watching over you until that comes.
2007-03-27 05:24:22 · answer #4 · answered by harleygirlkel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all I am so sorry to hear about your loss. It is very important that your children get enough attention. Many times when a spouse dies, the remaining parent is resentful of the children, or can't look at them because it's too painful. Your children need to know that their Mommy loved them very much, and it's not their fault that mommy went away.
2007-03-27 05:24:38 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry buddy. Really. 19 years is a long time but probably didn't seem like long enough. I wish you the best. Life can, will, and must go on for you and the kids. You're wife would have wanted it to I'm sure.
Good luck and God bless.
2007-03-27 05:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Treasure the good memories you have of her. Give her the honor of grieving for her...I can't imagine the pain you're feeling...but then carry on in a way that would make her smile. Gather your children and your family and friends close to you. When the pain is too much, just remember that "This too, shall pass." I wish you luck.
2007-03-27 05:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My prayers are with you at this time of bereavement. I don't know if the passing away is from an illness or accident but know that she is at rest and peace and she is now in the hands of the Lord doing a work for him. You have two lovely children to remind you of her. Let them be your comfort and let them be your peace of mind. You haven't lost everything although it may feel like it but you have to live your life they way she wanted you to and smile and be there for your kids even if you don't feel like it sometimes. My prayers to you is that you find comfort, a kind word and all the support you can get from family and friends. God Bless You!
2007-03-27 05:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by beaddiva 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow I am sooooo sorry. That must certainly hurt you and your kids. She is in a good place with God now and your duty is to raise those beautiful kids. I can say I am a single parent too and it is difficult but with the help of family, friends and your church you will be fine. I know it is tough. 19 years is a long time with her and now your precious better half is gone. I am so sorry. Email me if you want to talk more. I am here for you guys. Take care.....
2007-03-27 05:22:34 · answer #9 · answered by MOM OF ONE 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry to hear about your wife. During your greiving period, remember to celebrate your wife's life and cherish the memories that you and your children shared with her for the last 19 years. She may be gone physically, but her spirit is not far.
2007-03-27 05:27:43 · answer #10 · answered by deejay30 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋