My mother thinks my husband is an irresponsible father because he is not a good provider. His business got bankrupt after 5 years of building it up and I have to work to fill in for what is lacking economically. He opted for a trade course and since he's just started with his electronics repair services, he doesn't earn that much. Our daughter is now graduating hi-school with honors. My mom requested my husband not to go up the stage to hang the medal of honor on our daughter, My mom wants him to leave the right to me since she paid for our daughter's school tuition fees and I was the major earner for my family. Has my mom the right to make such a request?
2007-03-27 05:13:42 · 13 answers · asked by maria f 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Although I understand your mother’s point (she paid etc),
I think it is only up to you, your daughter and her father.
Your mother has the right to feel the way she does.
To speak out, however, is pretty unfair, because it puts
you under some moral pressure.
I am sure you have the right to act differently and to follow
your own decision (even if you risk offending your mother!)
You and your heart must decide. Good luck!
2007-03-27 05:20:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your mom needs to stay out of it, whether she paid the tuition or not. Your husband is proud of your daughter. You should both do the honors.
It isn't his fault he has fallen on hard times and he would support you in such a situation, just as you have supported him. That's what a marriage is. Your mother could stand to learn a little bit about what true support is.
It would be irresponsible for your husband to NOT want to honor your daughter. But I suggest you do it together.
2007-03-27 05:19:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is not elementary dealing with life with what you're by using. do not misinform your daughter yet do not deliver her down the two. that is not elementary for an 8 365 days outdated to appreciate what's occurring. Be the final effect you could. If she asks approximately her dad, merely tell her that he made some undesirable possibilities a minimum of till she is older. tell her that she will pray for him so as that Jesus will help him. there isn't something you're able to do approximately her organic and organic father. All you're able to do is be the final function type and effect on your daughter as attainable. Lead her interior the right course. in spite of the shown fact that, do not look after her from the international. Make her do some issues on her own so as that she gets superior and greater durable, with the aid of fact life isn't elementary. base line merely be the final mom you could, and fill her life with love and effective issues. additionally, i might look into getting married. think of how lots it might harm you and your daughter if yet another guy merely left. it is your decision, yet he sounds like a solid guy and a solid effect. save your head up and be solid. even whilst life is undesirable, save going so as that your daughter could have a greater effective life. She desires you. God bless you and your loved ones. i'm going to be praying for you and that i pray that all of it works out for you. be happy to touch me approximately something and that i'll attempt to help.
2016-10-20 13:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by wishon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is still his daughter and should be there if he chooses to be. As far as participating or not, your daughter is the only one who should have any say in that. With such an interfering mother-in-law, it's amazing he's still around. Your first loyalty belongs to your husband and child; your mother needs to take a back seat.
2007-03-27 05:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by Roberta 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a way she does, she did pay for your daughters schooling. However if it wasn't for your husband, your mother wouldn't have a granddaughter. I think regardless of weither or not he could pay for her school, he is still her father, and as long as he supports her and doesn't beat you or your children, then he should be allowed to go. I think your daughter would be more hurt if her father wasn't there. Your mother and your husband need to play nice with each other for the sake of your daughter.
2007-03-27 05:21:08 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Bridget ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely not. He is her father and it is not a shameful thing that his business went bankrupt. Lots of people go bankrupt and then go on to have great success. Thank grandma for paying the fees, but if that's her attitude you will be working on a payment plan to pay her back. She is way overstepping her bounds.
2007-03-27 05:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom should mind her own business. He is her father and you both should be up there. You are saying that money decides whether he is a good father, when there are many men that don't even want to show up for events like this for their child. He loves her enough to want to be there, thats what makes a good father.
2007-03-27 07:44:54 · answer #7 · answered by JAdorE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, it takes two to tangle. You and your husband are the ones who brought her into the world. Your husband has come upon bad times but as long as he has been a good father and husband. He has done his duties. If he hasn't , then that would be a different story.
2007-03-27 05:21:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would tell my mum to go and jump in the lake.
I'd love the outcry from the feminists if this were turned around and somebody said "My wife shouldn't go up, because she has never worked, she's just a housewife"
2007-03-27 05:19:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
thats a disgrace!
NO SHE DOES NOT... and quite frankly i am surprised you would allow her to think she can.
it doesnt matter WHO pays for her schooling, the father has a legal right to rejoice in his childs success. doesnt matter if your hubby is rich or poor, its a moot point.
.
2007-03-28 02:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by Yvette B yvetteb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋