Why Can't I.......?

Question

Have an orgasm when I am with my husband? How can I tell my husband I just don't come when I am with him. Don't take me wrong I do love and love to be with my husband but I just need to know what an orgasm feels like. Please HELP

Answer 1

I have some strange questions for you. Most of it is about a condition most women don't talk about. Some of this may not apply:


Have you ever mastrabated? If no, then it isn't surprising that you won't have an orgasm as they don't come easily, you need to know how to use the muscles in your boby. Try running you privates under the bathtub facet.

Also, you probably won't have an orgasm if your husband enters you right away. It takes lots of foreplay. Making him live up to his responsabilities.

Finally, does it feel like you need to pee at anytime while you are masturbating or having sex? If so, read the following:

It is a normal feeling for many women (the pee feeling). The lucky women known when and orgasm is coming, but the unlucky women confuse it with the 'pee feeling' and out of fear of wetting themselves they stop, thus keeping themselves from having an orgasm.

Not too long ago women didn't have any places to go and get advice.

Remember, the 'pee feeling' is actually the 'orgasm-feeling'. You may release a bit of fluid, but this isn't pee. More likely than not you will just have a really good orgasm. But you first need to let go, allow the feeling to envelope you.

If you are afraid to do this while having sex, you can try it by yourself in the bath-tub or shower, just so that you will know what will happen and what it feels like. When you are in the shower, their is no need to worry about accidentally peeing.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Do you fake it?

If you do (convincingly), how can you expect him to improve? He thinks he's already doing it right.

Start by being honest with your husband. You'll hurt him big time. You have no choice.

Marriages are built on honesty. If you have a sex life built on fake orgasms, how is that any good?

You say you need to know what it feels like - you've never managed to make yourself come by masturbating? Ever? I don't know how old you are or how much you've tried. I say try try try yourself.

Answer 3

Have you never ever had one? In that case I think that maybe there is some physical or psychological reason you can't climax... you should see your doctor, or a counselor (like if you were abused/raped).

Or if you used to get it and you can't anymore, it's time to spice things up in the bedroom. Tell him you want to do something special because you love him so much (or for a birthday or anniversary) and then the two of you can go to your local adult toy/bookstore. You'll get a lot of ideas there, and that should definitely help you both.

Answer 4

Take heart, this doesn't mean you don't love your husband. Try consulting a sex therapist (something like Masters and Johnson). It would be great help to your marriage if you have this repaired.

Answer 5

You do not say you have had one going solo.

Start there and find out what works.

Then go teach husband what to do.

Answer 6

Your too uptight, need to relax with him. Dont know about you but I worry about the jiggle, what he thinks of me. That kills it, the sex is nice but being able to finish is even better. If you have to close your eyes and just feel.

Answer 7

Try using toys or seeing a sex conselor.

Answer 8

Try working on it yourself first. Then talk to him about trying something new that gets you excited. I bet he will be WAY into it....

Answer 9

How do you know that you have never had one if you don't know what they feel like??

Answer 10

go talk to your Gyoncoigist

you might have a phyical problem that you do not know about