a girl has asked me for advice an i dont know how to anwser. she has no social life what so ever an wants to enjoy life to the fullest. but she has no one to hang with or talk to on the phone. shes basically alone 24-7 . how can she get the social life she want if shes shy, worried people are judgeing her an no self esteem. shes a good person an people mistreated her before they turned against her. what should i tell her.
2007-03-27 05:09:58 · 18 answers · asked by mexica mami 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That's a tough one. She shouldn't expect change overnight. But it's easier to make friends when you go someplace knowing that people there have common interests as you. Finding classes to attend that interest you, clubs that do activities you enjoy, volunteer for something you're passionate about, etc.
If her shyness is the biggest issue, then she might find it worthwhile to locate a group therapist who can put her into a therapy setting with people just like her. There's also drugs out there that can help. And it is possible that the shyness is a comorbid symptom of something else that's going on. Post Traumatic Distress Syndrome. Aspergers. Just to name a few.
If it is something she's been wrestling with for some time and not just a situational blip occurring in her life, then she should seek out some professional help to get her into the life she wants.
2007-03-27 05:23:39 · answer #1 · answered by pensacola_sand 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all starts with a greeting to someone you may not know, but have alot in common with. In english tell her to speak to people at libraries, the movies wherever she likes to hang out and do things, if shes at college, in class there is many places. There is no reason why anyone should be alone 24-7, there are chat rooms online now public ones, she can try yahoo chats, just make sure shes carefull in those.
2007-03-27 05:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by Niko 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My son has the exact same problem. All you can do is encourage her to meet new people and go new places. Invite her along with you when you go out. Not sure how old you two are but maybe get her involved in something at school. Just be a friend to her as much as you can which it sounds like you are :)
2007-03-27 05:14:21 · answer #3 · answered by Olivia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People with no friends whatsoever are likely to be pushing people away for some reason, or refusing to meet them. She needs to go for counseling to help her self esteem and social anxiety, and she should join some sports or hobby groups to meet new people. Volunteering is another great way to make connections. But if she keeps telling you that she is too shy to go out, or keeps predicting that people will mistreat her if she tries to meet new friends, then she is making excuses for herself and nothing you can do will help.
2007-03-27 05:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by charmedchiclet 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She could get involved in a community group that caters to younger people. This would keep her out of the party scene that may damage her more. If you live in a larger city there are quite a few that have group things they go out and do, the group will get together and go out to a movie, or hiking etc. that way its constructive and helps with the self confidence and gives her things to do and look forward to.
2007-03-27 05:18:07 · answer #5 · answered by mudd_grip 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her if she dont try making friends then she will never get them, thats not in a horrible way its true. you shouldnt feel the need to do things becuase your scared of peoples reactions. try making this girl feel good about her self, tell her shes pretty and so on and that will slowly but gradually give her more confidence, if her confidence has been low in the past then she will need some one like you for instance to start becoming more open .
2007-03-27 05:18:16 · answer #6 · answered by *mrs gerrard* 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get her into a group you think she would be comfortable. Have her sign up for clubs and stuff so she'll make new friends. Also try to boost her confidence
2007-03-27 05:13:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, DON'T tell her to go to a chatroom. All that would do is get her friends that don't really exist. Chatrooms are dangerous. They are like a drug and she could addicted to them. Just tell her you will be her friend and then show her to some of your other friends. Then they can become friends and b4 you know it, she will have a buttload of friends. HopE I HeLpEd
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2007-03-27 05:21:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you should be a good friend. brat. be nice to her, u say she has no friends, maybe if you would just open your eyes and look on her positive side and whats good about her, then you could help her out alot.
2007-03-27 05:14:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should go on a confidence building course, that way she'll hopefully gain confidence and also meet people like herself
2007-03-27 05:13:08 · answer #10 · answered by fluffypurplelilac 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋