Isn't that just punishing her for his insecurities?
2007-03-27 05:04:09 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-03-27 05:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by Kari R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. A husband has that right.
A wife has the right to ban her husband from spending time with an ex, as well.
It's a two-way street.
If it causes friction in the marriage, then the friendship isn't worth it.
2007-03-28 12:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
(I read and responded to your other question about this..)
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AiPFaoGLhOGW8Za7xyH2dHXsy6IX?qid=20070327082635AAixv20&show=7#profile-info-DcoTArqQaa
I would say, in reference to your situation... then yes, your husband has every right to tell you not to see your ex.
No matter how many times you post the same question on here.. you are always going to get the same kind of reponses (especially if you give all the details.. instead of just asking such a general question). No matter what you may want to hear.. what you are doing is NOT right, not in any way, shape or form.
You say you love your husband, yet you seem so determined to find a way to keep the "friendship" you have with that other man. You are a married woman now, and I think it's about time you start to behave like one. Married women have no place "hanging out" over at another man's house.. and they surely have no business falling asleep there, while watching a movie together.
What you are doing (if not already) is just setting yourself up for the possibility of an affair happening. What you are doing, is already just as bad..
You need to treat your husband and your marriage vows with more respect than you are right now.
You seem to be putting all your time and engery into your "friendship" with another man.. You need to stop that, and focus on your marriage.
2007-03-27 07:45:25 · answer #3 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only person you can control is yourself. I don't think you have the right to ban anyone other then your children from doing anything. Let's face it wouldn't you rather her not want to spend time with the ex with you telling her? I would have a heart to heart talk with her and tell her why it is bothering you. I am sure she is getting some need meet from this friendship that you are not providing. If you work on the marriage I am sure the ex will be history.
2007-04-04 04:52:12 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends really. Since he is your ex your now husband is thinking that since you two had a thing that you might pursue that again with your ex and yes he is insecure, who wouldn't be? I mean come on why would you want to put yourself in that situation anyways?
If your now husband asks you NOT to hang out with your ex you shouldn't! If you do continue then you get what is coming to you. Trouble! So just let the ex go. An ex is an ex for a reason, or did you forget that?
2007-03-27 05:29:57 · answer #5 · answered by MOM OF ONE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say ban, suggest that she not see him anymore. Spending time with an ex (who is a good friend) leaves alot of room for someone else to get hurt. If she loves you she will understand your feelings about this. Besides how would she feel if you were the one speaking to an ex and hanging out all the time.
2007-04-03 04:33:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't have the right to ban his wife but if the wife cared about her husbands feelings she would take that into consideration. After all he is the husband and I'm sure the wife would feel the same if the tables were reversed and he was all nice and friendly spending time with his ex.
Works both ways. She can say that she would be fine with it until it happens and then it will all hit the fan.
2007-03-27 05:13:02 · answer #7 · answered by Valentina 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
A husband doesn't ahve the right to ban his wife from anything, but the wife should see how the situation would be unnerving for her husband and stop spending time with the ex. Her husband's happiness is more important than a relationship with an ex. She should put herself in his shoes... chances are if he was hanging out with an ex who was just a "good friend" she wouldn't be too happy
2007-03-27 05:11:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
You're asking the same stupid crap in a different way! You need to divorce you husband so he can go find a good woman and you can go shack up with your lawyer friend! Stop asking the same question over and over you are not gonna get the answer you want! Besides if you really thought you were doing right then you wouldn't keep asking everyone if it's ok!
2007-04-03 16:53:56 · answer #9 · answered by Walt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many other people in the world. Can't you find a friend you haven't slept with?
The problem is that at some point in the past this guy was successful at getting into your pants, and probably it wouldn't be that hard again. Would you want your hubby hanging around an ex that would probably be an easy lay when the two of you had a fight?
2007-03-27 05:11:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
It really depends. Was this ex and you very serious, is there sexual history, etc... if so, then imagine if your husband still hung out with his ex. It's a potentially dangerous situation. I don't think he's punishing you, but if he's concerned, shouldn't your loyalties lie with fixing things with your husband? A friend of mine, a female, was in a similar situation, and in the end her "friend" wound up trying to seduce her. So watch out! Good luck!
2007-03-27 05:13:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋