How do I tell my mom school is more important?? and I want to quit working full time.. take a part time job and go to school full time. It's sounds easy, but she's a very complicated woman who pushed me to work full time straight out of high school. Now that a year has gone by since graduation, I miss the learning environment and working full time is exhausting!!! I'm too young to be this stressed out.
How do I tell her that I want to further my educatioin while working part time (not full time)??
**some of you might say suck it up and take night classes, but with the new job lined up I won't have time... sigh... I don't want to be stuck working as a receptionist/admin. assistant for the rest of my life**
2007-03-27 05:01:57 · 11 answers · asked by Freddie xoxo 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
You just need to tell her that you need to do this. I think that education is very important but also you need to contribute with a part-time job as you said. As 22 year old mother of 2 wonderful children, and the wife of an amazing husband, I would recommend that you put school first. I decided that a family would be my first priority. I love my life, but I don't have any thing to fall back on in the education field. It will pay off when you get a degree and find an awesome job that doesn't require you to work your tail off or be there all the time. Later your priorities may change but at least you will have the diploma in your pocket and know that you will always have the option of doing something else. Hope you find something in this message that helps you out with your mother. But, I'm sure she wants you to make the best of your life so maybe she will understand. Good Luck...
2007-03-27 05:19:05 · answer #1 · answered by froggy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, as an adult, you are in a difficult position.
Going to school and working is difficult, but I am assuming you are living at home?
If so, your mother does have a right to expect a reasonable contribution from you toward living there. Being an adult is a two way street. You have the right to make your own choices, but you have to take on adult responsibility too.
Full time work is exhausting sometimes- but that's what you'll be doing after college too. Adult life gets no better. You can't go to school your whole life.
I think what's really happening here is this- You miss high school. You miss having no responsibility and being carefree. I recommend you do go to college, but only if you go to further your life and are ready to work hard.
College is not high school and the classes can be difficult. No one will force you to do your work and there is financial risk involved.
If you choose to go, great, but don't go to avoid the unpleasant reality of adulthood.
2007-03-27 07:45:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you currently live with your mom? Do you have scholarship money to pay for tuition or shool loans? What is it you are majoring in? I know it is hard to go to school and work full time. I can understand you desire to please your mother but get what you need at the same time (which sounds kind of impossible). On a day that she was in a really good mood I would suggest you say, "Mom, I just can't work full time and keep my grades where they need to be. I really want to make more of my life than a minimum wage job" and maybe if the two of you still can't reach a common ground ask her if she would be willing to see a counselor with you to help mediate and kind of work things out. . . . .an outside objective person sometimes is a lot of help and I think it could work to your advantage. Good luck kiddo.
2007-03-27 05:11:54 · answer #3 · answered by icunurse85 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would sit her down and explain that by going back to school you actually can get a better job and make more money and have a better future by going back to school. I would tell her that the only way you can get ahead in your job is by furthering your education. Explain that a lot of places won't even hire you unless you have a college degree. Ask her why she feels so strongly about you working, maybe she is just afraid you won't be able to finish college. Stay calm. If she does agree to letting you go back, try to take a couple of classes at a time and don't overwhelm yourself. Just don't get discouraged. Good Luck to your future!!
2007-03-27 05:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you don't and why should you at your age? If you were my daughter, I would want you to further your education and not settle for a full-time office job that may never go anywhere. I think you should tell her the truth, and because she loves you, I hope she will understand. If not, I think you should go for it anyway. It may not be easy without her support, but you have dreams and good for you! Find a part-time job, quit the full time one, and go back to school.
Good luck to you!
2007-03-27 05:11:00 · answer #5 · answered by mom of 2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know a lot of full time employees with children too who are taking classes on line. You can do that. It's not easy, but at least you still live at home and have no children. Life is hard, you should get used to it because until you marry a generous wealthy older man whose about to kick the bucket, then you're gonna have to work. Sorry, but it's the truth and don't go doing something disrespectful like stripping either, just work and suffer like everybody else. This isn't Laguna Beach and you aren't Tristen.
2007-03-27 05:10:36 · answer #6 · answered by HazelEyes 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am a mother to 3 and I would only hope my kids would say that they want to go to school to better themselves. I agree with you 100% - go to school full-time and work part-time. If you aren't happy with what you are doing, then you are only here on this earth once so do what you want to do. And if your mom doesn't like it, then you need to remind her that it is your life and you are doing what is best for you. Good luck sweetie! *hugs*
2007-03-27 05:08:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what you need to do, your mom doesnt have a say in what you do anymore. It is your life, and you are the only one going to make it happen, either being a receptionist forever or going to school. Tell your mom whats up, and that it is your desire to go to school and get a better career.
Then pursue your dreams. Like said, only you can make it happen.
2007-03-27 05:07:23 · answer #8 · answered by s..... 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Have a heart-to-heart conversation with her and explain everything. Nothing will come out if the two of you won't calmly air your side. Emphasize it's stressing you too much and if you continue with that kind of arrangement, your mind and body will conk out.
There's hope. Cheer up.
2007-03-27 05:15:11 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apply for a grant or scholarship and when you get it, tell her you have payment for school and really feel you need to go to secure your future. If she still refuses to comply, I take it you are an adult and can make the decision for yourself. Try to get into school housing and go for it. Good luck!
2007-03-27 05:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Pretty♥ ♥Kitty♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋