i feel like that towards my mother plus we are far from being close. growing up i wasnt affectionate and iwasn't adorned with it so i've grown to just be not that affectionate. the one persn that got me to open up is my aunt. i find that i can tell her i love her (it took alittle time though) like its nothing. other ppl have me wondering did i really mean it after i say it. its just something i'm not use to
2007-03-27 05:01:47 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
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2007-03-27 05:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I feel very comfortable with telling my friends, my Aunt and my Mom & my brothers that I love them. And of course I tell my pets! I didnt have a lot of affection when I was growing up either. Maybe you're just not very open with any of your feelings. Start talking about the way you feel more often no matter if it is feeling really happy, or sad or annoyed or disappointed, whatever. Maybe if you start expressing more, saying I Love you will feel more natural.
2007-03-27 12:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by Jacqueline M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's anything wrong with feeling that way. Society seems to have this preconceived notion that we must love our parents unconditionally, no matter how they treat us or what kind of relationship we have with them. This simply is not the case in some circumstances. There's nothing wrong with not displaying your emotions. Too many times we are plagued with images of hearts around a person's head, or them screaming out their love in movies and TV shows, displaying their affection and letting the world know they're in love. It's all crap, if you ask me. How many people do you honestly know who yell from the rooftop, proclaiming their love? I don't know one person who does that, including my beau. We all show our affections in different ways. Don't worry about what other people think. Only you know how you feel, and you don't need to say "I love you" to get the point across.
2007-03-27 12:29:22 · answer #3 · answered by chicyuna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a very subjective feeling with a very vague feeling(s). There are different forms of love. You love your mother differently than you do your aunt. I'm glad you have your aunt. We all need affection and to have love affirmed and reciprocated. Love takes many forms....sometimes when people work hard to provide you with the necessities of life, fix your car, drive you places, make sure your safe...that is the only form of love that they can show.
2007-03-27 12:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I love my family very very much, but I'm not that affectionate either. Its easy for me to tell my boyfriend I love him, and its easy to tell my neice's and nephews that I love them. I rarely tell my parents, my sisters, or my friends that I love them. I'm just not comfortable with it. If someone says it to me, I get real nervous and don't feel right saying it back. I love everyone that says it to me VERY much, don't get me wrong, but for some reason I am only affectionate to certain people.
2007-03-27 12:06:10 · answer #5 · answered by Megan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i grew up with my dad and was never told i love you so it is really uncomfortable when its said and i can not really say it back yeah i know its sad but its just hard ... on the other hand i have no problem telling my boyfriend i love him we say it allllllll the time so i think that makes it easier i think the first few times you say its harder maybe if i told my dad more offen it wouldnt be so hard same with your mom if you said imore you would not feel so uncomforable saying it
2007-03-27 12:07:12 · answer #6 · answered by brandy_1412 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yupp, it's way too hard for me too.
it's like i want to say it, but i know at some point my parents will go "aww" or i dont know, something like that and im too embarassed or shy, but really I dont know what it is.
its soo hard. I dont think I ever said it to any of my parents since i was a child, unless I have written it in a birthday card or something because I have.
2007-03-30 11:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by Cassandra S. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well just say it. dont feel like u cant. the more u say it the easier it will be 4 u and the pople u say it to. theyll say it back.
i grew up in a family where u have to say i love you every time u talk to them. like when my mom or dad would call, the last wrds we woukd say is i love u. the same when we go to sleep.
2007-03-27 12:06:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not the only one who feels like that. Im 18 and i have rarely ever said "I love you" to my parents. it does feel awkward because you are family and its not something you will get used to very easily. like you said, with your aunt it took you time to get accustomed to saying i love you. the same goes with your parents.
2007-03-27 12:09:08 · answer #9 · answered by kcdraggawolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, those are the three most difficult words in the English language to pronounce.
2007-03-27 20:34:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont, but you could try saying casual i love yous like when u hang up with ur mom just be like "love ya" and it might not feel so weird. dont you think that this might be somewhat of a problem? you should really work on it. talk to your mom.
2007-03-27 12:06:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋