how youngs to young?

Question

my 15 year old daughter has asked me if she can go on the pill she has a bf but there not that serious her dad says no way but i would rather be careful than be a granny at 37. should i go behind his back r trust her to be careful. help xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Answer 1

Well, I would personally drive her to school every morning, go pick her up every afternoon, and chain her to a heavy piece of furniture from the time she gets home until the time she goes to school again.

Answer 2

She is being responsible about her birth control and this should be encouraged. Take her to the doctor so she can discuss the best birth control methods for her. The pill (taken correctly) is obviously the best at preventing pregnancy, but it will not protect her from STDs, which are a very real threat these days. Her father does not want her to have sex; he does not even want to think she might be having sex: His reluctance to allow her to take the pill is basically a reluctance to face up to the situation and admit his 'little girl' is now a sexual being. Your daughter is, thankfully, taking a less-childish, more pro-active stance. You should tell her dad that 'problems' don't go away just because you refuse to face them! He also needs educating about the pill it seems! Your daughter will have sex when she wants to whether you allow her to go on the pill or not. Treating her like a child when she is behaving as a resonsible young adult is not a good idea. She is trying to act responsibly so let her!

Answer 3

Take her to the doctor, do not go in with her since she's now old enough to handle all that by herself, or wait until the doctor asks you to leave so that they can talk to the teen. Then she can go on the pill if she wants, or if she doesn't want. There's patient confidentiality, and that way your no promoting her going on the pill or not but allowing her to make her own healthcare decisions as is her right.

Also consider there may be other reasons she may want on the pill at 15, it regulates acne, gives her a lighter period, gets rid of painful cramping. And she may not want to tell you or dad about those reasons.

I understand your husband's concerns, but ultimately shes at the age where medically its her decision what to put in her body,and by taking her to the doctor your promoting her independence and supporting her. In the end its really her decision and your roll as parents to support her decisions, though you don't have to help them along. Your husband dosn't have to pay for the pills.

Answer 4

Just remember: Don't lecture.

Now we've got that out of the way, here's what you could do. Give her a small (as in 30 seconds) talk about having sex at a young age. Let her know that while you may be disappointed with her, you will always love her. Then get her some condoms, the pill, and an appointment with your gynecologist.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Here is a personal experience opinion! I was put on the pill at age 15 to help regulate my irregular cycle. I was on it for 3 years, and then I (not bc the doc said to) took myself off of it bc I didn't think it was good to be on it. I was not sexually active, but just needed for medical purposes.

Well to make a really long story short...I am now 24 and have had 4 miscarriages. THE DOCS ARE SAYING IT IS PROBABLY FROM BEING ON BIRTH CONTROL! And here's the best part, they say I will probably NEVER have a successful pregnancy. This is very traumatic, as my husband and I really wanted to have a big family. We are working on adoption at this point, but due to cost we will not be able to have the big family we hoped for!

All because of birth control!

Answer 6

At least your thinking..I would definitely put her on birth conrtol at leat she is being responsible about the situation and acutally asking for BC i mean alot of young girls will go and have sex without thinking of the consequences, without BC nor condoms and end up pregnant..
Ok say your daughter asked you for BC and you denied and your daughter thought hey maybe the pull out method will work so she went ahead and tried it and later found out she was pregnant, that would not be a good thing and you would end up being a grandmother at 37 and you already said you do not want that..
So if you ask me i would say put her on birth control that would be the best thing to do and thats better than hoping your daughter will be careful

Answer 7

Once a girl starts her period, the pill is a good idea. Not just as birth control, but also to help regulate her cycle. Just make sure you have a good long talk with her about sex, she is still to young, make sure she knows the pill will not protect against STD's and if she does have sex a condom is still necessary. Keep those communication lines open, it's good that she came to you about it. Be proud, that shows responsibly on her part.

Answer 8

YES give it to her! she will do it reglardless what her parents say. and even if shes not on the pill...hopefully she would at least use a condom...but there so many teen pregnancies. Wouldnt you rather her be safe than sorry. You should trust her to make the right decision....but if she does plan on having sex its good she wants to be safe...and that she came to you. I am 16 and my mom wont give me the pill cuz she thinks then i will think its ok to have sex...but what she doesnt realize is i will do it anyways. so she should WANT me to be safe....my advice is that if she asked for it....find a way to get it to her. Your husband probably just doesnt like the fact of thinking your teen is havin sex...but he needs to think of what could be the result if shes not safe...
hope i helped!
and i hope you make the right decision!!

Answer 9

i went on the pill at 16 when i started having a serious relationship.. i think you should put her on the pill.... its better to be safer then sorry.. it's also good so she can afterward go back every-year for a pap smear and make sure she is healthy.. i think 15years is young, but youre right, its better than being a grandma at a young age. i think it a healthier way to go.. and when you get er on the pill, make sure you sit down with her and have a talk with her about std's and protection, and pregnancy (just to be on the safe side)

Answer 10

Don't give her the pill. Tell her that you strongly disapprove her having sex at 15 with a guy she's not even that serious about, and that for all you know he has an STD and is a total jerk.

Tell her that if she does go around your wishes, to use a condom though.

Answer 11

To be perfectly honest in this day and age I think she needs to be on birth control. That's why we have so many grandmas at 30 and great grandmas at 40. My daughter is almost 7 and by the time she is 15 she will be on some form of birth control. I don't want to think that she's not having sex but I do want to protect her. I want her to be able to talk to me about anything. Talk to me first before she goes listening to her little friends. As far as your husband goes ask him if he wants to be a grand dad at his age. Would he like to see his 15 year old pregnant, living in his house, and him having to help her raise a baby? I'd say get her on some kind of birth control because you never know but at least you'll know that she's protected.