A friend of mine got upset with me and now wants my 2 horses off his property. I have no job, no place fr them

Question

I have a friend that can be pretty cold sometimes when he jokes and this time I brought it to his attention and he got really mad and ordered me to take my 2 horses off his property. The sad thing is that I lost my job, and don't have a trailer, or a place to board them at right now. I'm afraid he might sell them or give them away. I really don't know what to do. I just bought one of the horses and these are my first horses that I've ever had. I put almost all my savings into them. I never had to pay board for them and my friend understood that I didn't have a job but now he's saying get them off his property. What can I do? What can he do?

one of the horses i got was from him and had already been living there. I jus found a place thay may take one of my horses in exchange for some help a couple hours a week. A lot of your respsones are soo cruel. These are my babies and the timing was bad. But horses are my passion and I will not let anyone stand in my way. I know its costtly to keep a horse but i have a new car and home that i dont need to pay for so I know that once i get a job ill be better off.

Answer 1

I guess it's time to stop sponging off people, huh? Get a job and take care of your responsibilities. I'm just curious...how are you affording vet care? Horse care isn't cheap if you plan to be a responsible owner.

Answer 2

As several ppl have mentioned an apology may be in order not bec you were in accurate but bec you hurt and upset a friend. It may well be that you hurt him and he wanted to hurt you back and that a reconciliation is possible. If he does not then say the horses can stay you can ask for a specific length of time to make arrangements for them perhaps 30-60 days. It would be a good idea to call the local law enforcement and local animal control and ask your what can I do what can he do questions as far as legal rights because laws vary in different place and bec this will make them aware of the situation and that you have not abandoned them if he claims you have.

Join Freecycle for your area at Yahoo groups and see if anyone may be willing to donate the use of pasture land and the use of a horse trailer, This is not a long term solution but may buy you some time.

Do you know how to care for horses, train them, etc. Are they a serious life investment or something that seemed like a nice idea at the time? Do you have a serious commitment to these specific horses or would another horse at a time that you can take care of it be a better idea? You didn't say why you got them so I don't know if they are for pets, for breeding, to ride for pleasure or start a horse related business, or just cause it seemed great to have horses. Horses need a lot more than being turned out in a pasture and left to fend for themselves, more even than food and water. There are vet's bills, hoof trimming which has to be done right or can cripple and kill the horse, supplements for health, currying (grooming), training, etc. Since you are out of work and do not seem to have a job lined up it may be better for the horses to sell them to someone who can take care of them and if you are later in a better position tom get another horse. This will help restore your savings too and give you a way to get through this unemployment.

I had a horse and a pony that I loved yrs ago and was in a somewhat similar situation. I had no way to move them and no place to put them. I had moved from the place where they were and that friendship was worse than over. I ended up having to give Ramona the horse to that person because I knew that while they were not nice to me they would be good to her and I couldn't move her or pay board especially the board that was now being demanded. It was not unfair to demand it. I knew from experience that hauling hay and mucking out stalls was hard work I just didn't have a better solution so I had to do it. The pony I sold to someone who really wanted her. They were someone I knew so I did get to see her and her foal once in a while till they sold her.

Summer is coming and spring is here in many parts of the country so you may be able to try one other thing if - and only if these specific horses are very special to you. Find a boarding stable, trail ride place, or riding school in your area and offer to trade out work mucking out stalls, maintaining trails, whatever for board for your horses and for moving them there. Offer to have them work in the riding string. If you are experienced sand good with horses and their care and about riding this could even turn into a full time job or a pt job that paid their board and room and board for you. But if these are not your special babies it is probably best to sell them bec right now you prolly need the $ more than you need them. Just be sure the new owner can and will care for them. The good news is that ppl who know and love horses and do have the know how and means are more likely to pay a good price. You may even offer your friend a deal where you will pay whatever the area's going rate is for board for horses out of the proceeds of the sale. That way he will want then to have top care and look good while they are with him.

Answer 3

Don't let these cruel self-righteous people hurt your feelings. Your post says you lost your job - which means you were working. Anyone can have bad luck.
Try to make amends with your friend. If he is unreasonable, then you just have to look harder to find a temporary place for the horses. If not, you may have to sell one, as y ou have a place for one. They won't take two?
And "just grass," if lush and nutritious, is fine for horses, especially for short term.
Those who aren't horse lovers and who have never had to face bad times just don't understand your plight, but I do. Been there, done that. I found a man who let me use his pasture until I could get on my feet and find a place to board.
You may have to borrow a trailer or get someone to haul them when you m ove - if you do. If this guy is really a friend, maybe he will cool down and let you stay.

Answer 4

I would try to talk to him. You didn't do anything wrong, but try apologizing. Hopefully he has a kind heart and will let you keep your horses there.

If they are your horses, he has no right to sell them or give them away.

I don't think you will find anywhere else that boards for free, but look around at other barns and see what the rates are.

I hope you are trying to find a new job and not just leeching off of people, that annoys me when people do that! I am not saying you are though!

Good luck. I hope your friend understands!

Answer 5

Well, first of all he can not sell them they are not his...secondly if he is a good friend maybe you need to be the bigger person and apologize for hurting his feelings...even if it is true sometimes we need to be very mindful about the delivery of what we say and who we say it to...sometimes things are better left unsaid!
If he really wants them gone off his property then he will have to get the sheriff to serve you an eviction notice, same as if you were renting a house/apartment. maybe he just needs a few days to cool off and then you can try to talk to him. He probably won't be able to do anything over night. Good Luck!
One question for you... If you have no job how do you care for the horses? How do you afford feed and hay? Just curious????

Answer 6

Your friend has a legal right to hold your horses for board (if he files the proper paperwork) , and if he is mad at you then do not put it past him. He also can call the sherriff's department and have them removed as strays. I agree that with everyone else that you need to see about selling them, since not having a job and owning horses do not go hand in hand (unless you are independently wealthy).

Answer 7

Whether you like it or not call your local shelter or ASPCA, you will have to sign them over to get the horses the care they desperately need, wait until you have a secure job before thinking of buying an animal that needs the level of care that horses need. He may end up hurting or starving the animals. Do the right thing quickly!!

Answer 8

Why in the hell did you spend all your savings on animals that you can not afford the up keep on. If you dont have a job then all these animals are eating is grass and that is not good for them. Get a job, collect unemployment and move the horses or better yet sale the horses to ppl that can afford their proper care.

Answer 9

This may not be the answer you are looking for, but if you do not have job, then you need to get rid of your horses.

Having a horse is not exactly something you need. I think that it is pretty selfish of you to ask someone else to keep them for you, especially since you spent all of your savings on a horse, instead of necessities.

I would get a job, if you want to keep your horses.

Answer 10

Its beyond me when you knew this was the only place you had to keep your horses why you had to open your mouth and say something to make him mad. You sure gained nothing from it. I think you need to get rid of them right away. It was wrong to buy them in the first place. You are being selfish providing yourself with something you want even when you don't have the money to take care of them or yourself. They come first and you come second is how it works. Sell them. It 's the only right thing to do.

Answer 11

I can understand that you are upset but you have to realise that horses cost money, you should not have bought two if you could not afford to realisticly keep one. Either straighten out the problem with your friend or start looking for a new place. You have to be prepared for problems, what if one of them needed a vet? Maybe you could lease them out to someone else until your job situation is better.