Is it possible to make a sound decision to marry someone after only knowing them a few months? I have been dating someone for only two months and we have spent a huge amount of that time discussing marriage and relationships... what we both want, how we think things can work out between us, and it actually feels like it is the natural thing even though I am not 'in love' or even feel like I love him yet... We haven't begun an intimate relationship and I am glad about that actually... we have just taken the time we have spent to really get to know each other and it feels like a different type of relationship than any I have been in. I am a little unsure because I am a very logical person, and logic tells me that it doesn't make sense to marry someone, get engaged, or even talk about marrying someone after only knowing them a few months. But as I said this actually 'feels' like the natural step for us. What do you think about this situation?
2007-03-27 04:47:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds great so far, its different for all couples so no one can actually give you advise on this. Logic is good, but matters of the HEART can over rule Logic, its a tug of war, sometimes Logic wins, sometimes HEART wins. All you can do is LISTEN to yourself for a TRUE answer.
2007-03-27 04:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by sirmrmagic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you think of taking this huge step without loving him or not sure of it!That´s the question/doubt not the fact that you´ve known eachother a few weeks. You must be sure that you´re in love before making a commitment. I´m no expert but I got married only after a few months of dating cause we fell in love and have been for 12 years.
Goodluck
2007-03-27 06:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by iluvbarcelona2327 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my fiance and i were engaged 2 months after we met! everyone was really surprised and told us it was way too soon! we actually ended up moving in together just 2 months after our engagment (4 months knowing each other altogether). we've now lived together 2 years and are getting married in 2 months and i couldn't be happier! even though we slowed down a bit and spent time living together i could have married him after the 2 months and been as happy as i am today! when it's right, it's just right. but i wouldn't do it because it's the natural step, do it because you're madly in love and want to get married
2007-03-27 04:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is my story.....I dated my first wife 3 years. Married 17 years. Had a bunch of wonderful kids. She went to her 20th class reunion, met an old boyfriend, had an affair and we ended up divorced. I have the kids. She left. Painful, ugly, really hurt a lot....
Went to a party two years after my divorce. Was bored to death and ready to leave. I turned around and met a wonderful beautiful woman. We only dated two months and got married. It felt right. We have been together for a year and a half and it is great. I would never go back....
What I know.... There is nothing certain in life, and it may end tomorrow for any of us. Seize the DAY!!!
2007-03-27 05:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by flyfish_777 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow that sound's a little quick, at least in my eyes. I believe that you should get to know eachother because usually everything about a person doesn't all come out in a few months. I think that you should give it a little more time to get to know him because if you end up getting married now not knowing each other for very long it could possibly end up in a messy ending. That is just my opinion about your situation, but do what you think is best for you and follow your heart.
2007-03-27 04:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by candy_lover_4ya2002 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I got married after 116 days of dating. (about 4 months) This April we celebrate 7 years of marriage. However, I would like to say that my family moves fast when it comes to marriage. And we are successful at it. Very few divorces.
My husband and I did not marry for love. We are in love now, but that is not why we married. We married with our brains, not with our hearts. We married for economic and personal compatibility reasons. Most people don't look favorable on marriages started for those reasons. They don't understand it. But that is okay...they aren't the ones involved in the marriage.
Frankly, the brief story you gave sounds VERY familiar to me.
2007-03-27 04:59:28 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honey let me tell you ..I got married after knowing a guy for only 2months..and I "thought" I was IN love with him. All I can tell you is to KNOW you are IN love before actually getting married. Have a LONG engagement and really get to know him and his family before making that step of MARRIAGE. 2 months is not enough time to know someone and get married. You just need to know in your heart that you are IN love with him and not LUST.
2007-03-27 05:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by jbe2176 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take your own advice "logic tells me that it doesn't make sense to marry someone, get engaged, or even talk about marrying someone after only knowing them a few months"
2007-03-27 04:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Stop talking about marriage. Just keep in the moment of the relationship.
However, if you WERE in love with him and he with you by this point, then maybe your on the right track. My husband and I talked about marriage within the first month. We knew then. We've been together 8 years.
2007-03-27 04:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by Martini3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go ahead and talk all u want about marriage; however, I would delay the actual ceremony until u have dated for at least 1 year and lived together for at least 1 year...in other words...u may wish to take a stroll down that marriage aisle in about 2 years time
2007-03-27 04:53:07 · answer #10 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋