2007-03-27 04:31:33 · 10 answers · asked by indigogirlatheart 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You can, of course, but you're going to have to allow the fallout from the breakup to heal and then let yourself become friends again. You've both know each other intimately, you've been friends (hopefully) before and can be again. You both just *cannot* be jealous of new relationships, of other friendships each may gain and neither may you chuckle gleefully (at least in public) at the loss of the aforementioned. If you both want to be friends, then that's what you both have to be, you have to be the friends you both want to see in yourselves.
Bless you both for trying. Good luck.
2007-03-27 05:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, it really depends on the individuals and the situation. If the break up was smooth & there was an extreme strong friendship base BEFORE the relationship, there's a decent chance that the friendship will still fluorish afterwards. BUT, if it was a messy, dramatic break up, if someone was extremely hurt & you allowed the relationship to chip away at the friendship.....chances are slimmer for a close friendship after. But it's not impossible though. IF both take time away to just heal & re-focus yourselves, & completely get over eachother romantically , you may be able to make a friendship work out. Now it may never get back to how it was before anything happened, because something HAS happened. It's damn near impossible to go backwards and act as if the relationship never was. But if both of u are mature and sincerely dedicated to making the friendship work, it can.
2007-03-27 12:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suppose that it is possible. But in my experience...no. When you were lovers you learned things about each other that you never would have know if you hadn't been in love. And these aren't things you just forget. So once you're "just friends" those things get in the way. You keep old habits. For Example...I met my current Girlfriend on line. I actually met her best friend in person first, and we became friends. I even moved in with Her and her girlfriend. I knew that my girl, and her best friend had been lovers years ago...but I didn't think much of it...until we were all living together. They would cuddle...they would touch eachother...they would lay in bed together. She would drop whatever she was doing to tend to her "best friend", and she would believer her over me. And her best friend got jealous that i was spending so much time with MY girlfriend.it put a lot of strain on our relationship...and a lot of strain on her friends relationship. They didn't think about how their actions were affecting their partners, and it was a completely unhealthy environment...and emotionally damaging. Even though they never cheated...it was as close as you can get with out commiting the crime. yes it is possible for you to be friends with a former lover...but will it be possible for you to be in a relationship while you are her friend? Sabatoge happens.
2007-03-27 12:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by LoveBats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've tried to and it's real hard. It all depends on the dynamics of the two people. Usually, one person ends up jealous even if it's a mutual breakup. If you can get it to work; that's great.
2007-03-27 11:38:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My best friend now was my lover for 8 years. We broke up 8 years ago and have been friends ever since. We broke up gently though, no cheating, no nastiness etc. I'm sure that made it easier to stay friends.
2007-03-27 11:43:43 · answer #5 · answered by FTW 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
of course.....but it does take time depending on the break up....my parents were the best of friends for years after they divorced...not right away mind you...lol
but they realized they just had a great connection
sometime friendship really is better.
love is genderless...i think it would apply to any relationship
2007-03-27 11:36:41 · answer #6 · answered by krnsspott 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought lesbians were famous for having healthy platonic relationships BEFORE the breakup. Ever heard of LBD (Lesbian Bed Death)?
2007-03-27 11:51:23 · answer #7 · answered by tkdeity 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yeah i know they can
My wife is best friends with her ex girlfriend
Actually we're all really close
And we all have a really great friendship
2007-03-27 12:54:22 · answer #8 · answered by traven_blood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can and does happen - but it can and does take time.
2007-03-27 12:46:03 · answer #9 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will take time but it's possible
2007-03-27 12:13:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋