I lost my best friend 2 weeks ago and now i cannot stop eating....?

Question

My best friend died two weeks ago, it was a complete shock, we've been best friends for 20 years and spent practically every day together and lived together, since she died I just keep picking at food all day. I'm back at work and really sad so people keep bringing me in cake and ice cream. I really want to stop eating as now thats getting me down too. Serious tips to stop please.

Answer 1

I lost my best friend a few years ago and it really devastated me. We all have our own ways of coping. You have to remember the good times hun, that's what got me through it, plus I used to go and visit her grave and talk to her. I still do sometimes. Ask yourself if she would like to see you like this. She would be shaking her head at you ! It's not easy but it will get better believe me. As for the eating, you can see what you are doing and that is the first step, you want to stop so stop. Concider grief councilling in your area as well.

Answer 2

You are still grieving - losing someone that you have been friends with for this long is like losing a limb.

If you want something sweet to comfort you try eating a cereal bar or put some grapes in the freezer and eat them as a snack. You could thank everybody for the cakes etc but ask them instead of bringing them to you taking them or making a donation to your friends favourite charity or local womans refuge.

I am so sorry for your loss and I hope that you can move on after you have properly grieved.

Answer 3

First im very sorry for your lose i know how it is to loose a lifelong friend. But, you cant gorge yourself to solve the pain. Get busy so were you dont have the time were you can gorge yourself. If someone brings you cake and or ice cream give it to someone else. Maybe carry around a healthy snack food such as a bag of carrots or other veggies! I wish you the best of luck! I know that when we loose someone very close to us we kind of close up dont let that happen to you... keep praying and know that one day you will see her in heaven but until then she will watch over you shes always there!! take care!!!

Answer 4

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Being friends that long and loosing her, it's no wonder you're eating like crazy. You are still grieving and you "need" something to fill that empty place. Give it a little more time and your eating habits should get back to normal. Until then, maybe try chewing gum, or hot tooth picks; just something to try to replace the nervous eating. Time will be the best thing. Don't let it get you down. I will keep you in my prayers; God bless!

Answer 5

Firstly, I am really sorry for your loss. People deal with grief in different ways,it has only been a few weeks since you lost your friend and some people find solace in food when they are feeling extremes of emotion. Explain to your work mates that you are grateful for their care and concern but your snacking is getting a bit out of control, and that you have come to realise how important it is to look after your own health. Make up some healthy snacks to take with you to work ( chop up some veg like carrots,celery,cucumber,and a mix of fruits ) and drink plenty water to fill you up. If you don't already,take up some form of exercise, it will very quickly make you feel healthier and help you to sleep better at night. Don't eat late at night and always have a breakfast before setting off to work. Keep yourself occupied and make a pact with yourself that you are going to live a happy and healthy life . Losing your friend is a heartbreaking experience, but you must also remember you are very much alive and should make the most of every moment, you still have many wonderful experiences ahead of you and in order to enjoy them it is important that you look after your health.

Answer 6

That is so sad and it sounds like you're eating to comfort yourself. Maybe you need to talk to someone about how you're feeling - perhaps a counsellor. If you look at the front of your phone book, you'll find phone numbers of various agencies who'll be able to help you. The citizens advise bureau will also have a list of bereavement groups in your area. I wish you well and hope you get some help soon

Answer 7

Im so sorry for your loss. At my school a girl died in a car crash. Everyone was really upset especially her boyfriend (Who was driving the car!). i think you should keep going to work and whenever you feel your gonna eat something (Exept for the 3 meals a day and the occasional snack) go and keep your self busy.


Good Luck And keep your hopes up :D

Answer 8

Well try giving the food to some of your relatives or somebody else, and try to replace the food with a sport, like go swimming or just go out to a park near and take a walk, my recommendation would just be to do something to distract you, anything but that would relax you.

Answer 9

people tend to eat because food is comforting to them and gives them something else to do besides sit and think about their loss! you might want to find a good friend or counselor to talk to and you have to make a conscious effort to watch your actions! recognize the difference between eating for hunger and eating for distraction. i'm sure it will also help when people aren't putting food in your face all day long

Answer 10

hi, so sorry to hear that. I would just get through each day as well as you can, and dont worry about eating. the main thing is you are eating, quite often when people are upset they stop eating and therefore lose their health. your body is just keeping you healthy so your mind can do what it has to.
So sorry again for your pain.