I got married 2 years ago, My husband and I have been together for 5 years. We have gone through Hell, and I stuck by his side. Why can't people handle the rough and tough of marriage? You get married, you have vows through thick and thin, why quit?
And what is this about not having sex?
I have two children and I still have time for sex and romance.
2007-03-27
04:27:20
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fourcheeks4
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Family & Relationships
➔ Marriage & Divorce
Who says 5 years is not long enough?
My parents have been married for 25 years, after he cheated on her, he didn't work for many years and she had to support the family, he did a lot of wrong things, even to his own children, and she stuck by him.
2007-03-27
05:18:02 ·
update #1
I've said this many times, people find it easier to just give up and walk away because they're lazy. In our times, most people have no sense of perseverance and just want to throw up their hands and give up the first time they face some tough times. And what drives me crazy, these lazy people want others to feel sorry for them. Well, boo-hoo! Give me a break.
You cannot just give up every time you face tough times. Not if you ever want to do anything with your life or relationships. That apparently doesn't stop a large number of people though.
Also, we live in a disposable society where almost everything is disposable: diapers, forks, plates, napkins, even cameras. Now, I feel like many people think their spouses and even their kids are disposable. You get tired of them? Just walk away and abandon them.
Drives me NUTS! I just want to scream, "SUCK IT UP!!!!!" Life is hard, deal with it.
I feel for you, I really do. However, you can't force someone to care, can't force them to have the energy to try to work it out and hang in there.
Good luck.
2007-03-27 06:03:42
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answered by Anonymous
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I understand what you are saying. Divorce is an easy way out. I have been married 4 years and with him 7. we have 2 kids and have moved to 3 different states in the past 3 years. We are no where near our family and we both have to work.
But there is still more to a marriage then sex and romance.
2007-03-27 04:32:27
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answered by princess2423 3
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you can't honestly think your situation is the same as everyone elses. Your right marriage is hard, and alot of people don't take it as seriously as they should. But I wouldn't generalise by saying that people who get divorced just can't handle the ups and downs and are trying to escape.
I'm a Christian and believe in taking marriage seriously, and sticking with it through thick and thin, however; I'm also divorced. I divorced because my husband was not willing to change or seek help for his anger issues (anger that he was taking out on me and the kids), and he was having inappropriate relationships with women (emotional cheating kinda thing). The environment was not healthy or safe for my children, and I know I did the right thing by leaving.
2007-03-27 04:59:59
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answered by who-wants-to-know 6
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WOW! 5 whole years?? That's not long enough to be questioning another couples marriage/divorce especially if they have been married/together longer than you have. 5 years really isn't long enough to go through the true problems, try 10-15 years of dealing with his/her mess. I personally don't want to ever get divorced so I will be willing to go through whatever, but I haven't been through the worse yet so I can't say what I "wont do".
2007-03-27 05:10:55
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answered by 20 and lovin' it 3
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people in today's society want a picture perfect marriage, and are generally not enthusiastic or do not think through the idea of implications long term commitments. "Love" as emotion is not enough, commitment to each other and vows is in a way "Love" in action. But there's this false idea of everything being emotion driven, and so when people don't feel it, they are convinced it is grounds for divorce.
I congratulate you on bringing up this question, more people need to ask this.
2007-03-27 04:37:59
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answered by intercultural_consultant 2
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I'm glad to see you have marriage figured out after only two years. You know, you should write a book! You could probably kill the divorce rate completely. Personally, I doubt it. What works for you and your husband is what works for you and your husband. Peoples version of 'hell' could be a lot different and worse than yours. Besides, I know people who have be married for much longer and still get divorce. Let me know when you reach your 30th anniversary and maybe I'll listen!
2007-03-27 04:54:58
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answered by the anomaly23 4
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answered by sechler 4
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I totally agree and I hope when I marry, that he will stick by me and not give up. I think that's my worst fear is him giving up on me. He says that he won't marry if he thinks we'll end up divorced. How will anyone know? It's impossible to know. I fear divorce too, but sometimes I feel like the stronger one b/c I KNOW I'LL STICK BY HIM NO MATTER WHAT! (unless of course, he cheats) Then there's no question....
2007-03-27 05:05:03
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answered by inlovewow 4
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People think that they're supposed to have a fairy tale life. Hollywood helps perpetrate this myth and it makes people think that if they have any little problem at all, then it's time for a divorce. People believe stupid things any more instead of believing in commitment.
2007-03-27 04:33:18
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answered by Aiden 6
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its u who is handling it welln realising the meaning of marriage in he real sense but there r people who think that if just one problem crops up they r incompatible......its all about tackling it....moreover u guys hav been living together since 5 years, there r ppl who just get married without even knowing each other that well so then for them its lil tough.....but anyways its all about the understandin u share with ur partner...isnt it?
2007-03-27 04:36:02
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answered by anjali 2
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