Im a healthy 19 year old male, who recently had sex for the first time.
Allthought it has happend again since then i havnt yet been able to ejaculate.
I love my girlfriend and i find her beautiful, she makes me erect very easily so there are no problems there.
During the sex both times i wore a extra safe condom which is the thickest one they have, I assumed the reason i didnt finish the first time was because it was so thick and i have problems feeling anything with it on.
We have tried oral and hand with out the condom on and i still havnt come.
I dont know that the problem is she turns me on and makes me hard but i still cant finish and i want to for her and for me.I assume its just nerves, and feeling uncomfrotable being naked.
I can ejaculate when i masterbate but from the two times so far not during sex. Is there something wrong with me ?
2007-03-27 04:21:37 · 6 answers · asked by good guy 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
You need to keep your hands off yourself and get better/different condoms. When you pleasure yourself it makes it harder for you to ejaculate during real sex, so you can't do that every single day AND have sex, not until you have more sex with your girlfriend and less with yourself. It'll happen, relax. If you fear getting caught that might be the reason, so go somewhere private, lock the door and try try again.
2007-03-27 04:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by wwhrd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can ejaculate when you masturbate, you'll learn to do so when having sex. When using a condom, try a little lube inside the condom; it makes it feel more realistic.
Lots of guys can't finish during oral sex. Maybe we're self-conscious about going in their mouths, and maybe the rhythm just isn't right for you. You might try using your own hand during oral or manual sex to help her set the pace, or even to contribute some stroking.
But don't worry, it'll work out. My first time, I couldn't ejaculate, but later I worried about finishing too fast. And remember the point is to have a great time, not to judge your performance.
2007-03-27 12:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by perkins j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not every person is the same. Some people need different types. try a different type. It is VERY normal to get this feeling after the first time.
2007-03-27 13:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by yummy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is VERY normal. I recommend a more sensitive condom, and maybe you need a different size. 1 size does not fit all. Masturbating and sex are totally different feeling, and it will take practice to come to orgasm that way.
2007-03-27 11:38:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be glad. If you can't finish, then make it about her. Pleasure her until she finishes. She'll love you for it.
Don't worry about yourself for now. I wish I could last forever again. Now I finish before i start.
Just enjoy it.
2007-03-27 11:47:03 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
same happened to my husband the first time he tried it back when he was younger..before we got together. It happens in most men, you have to concentrate on ejaculating
2007-03-27 11:36:28 · answer #6 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋