Is it normal to want to get pregant after a still birth?

Question

recently lost a baby and feel so guilty about wanting to get pregant agin...but the fact is how could i want to?

Answer 1

I don't think this odd at all. You lost a baby that you were prepared to have and you can't just forget about that. I think you should give yourself ample time to heal and to make sure you aren't trying to replace the lost baby and then go ahead. I miscarried several times and each time afterward I wanted to try again right away. It was hard to wait but I had encouragment from my doctor and my husband and now I have 2 babies and another on the way!

Answer 2

There is no right or wrong way to feel after suffering such a loss. Whatever you feel is normal for you. It seems natural to want another pregnancy because you were ready to have a baby already. I didn't have s still birth, but I was 16 weeks pregnant with my second child when I miscarried. I was devastated because I wanted that child so badly. All I could think about was getting pregnant right away. I needed to be pregnant. I miscarried in November 2002, and was pregnant by January 2003. We did wait until the OB said I was physically ready to be pregnant again, and I knew right away I was pregnant when it happened. I took some of the pregnancy tests that you can take before your period is due and kept getting negative results, my husband was seriously thinking that I was crazy and just wanted to be pregnant, but 5 tests later, we knew I was. I had a healthy little girl in October 2003, and she is so amazing. I thank God everyday for sending her to me when I needed her so much. I'll never know why I wasn't meant to have that baby that I miscarried, but all I know is that if I did have that baby, I wouldn't have my precious little girl. I hope this is of some help to you. And something else to think about, I am currently pregnant with my 4th baby, and our due date is the same as the baby we lost. Oddly I feel like I'm getting our baby back. Take care and best of luck to you.

Answer 3

This is totally normal. I went through the same thing after our son was born still in November. I suggest you pick up the book "empty cradle broken heart" which helped me realize my immediate desire to go on long term birth control.. then shortly change to wanting a baby immediately is just part of the process.

You should know that women that wait 12 months before getting pregnant again greatly reduce their chances of another stillbirth or miscarriage. Doctors recommend at least 6 months. While some will say there is no "right time"- the last thing a mother needs is to go through a second stillbirth less then a year later.

Answer 4

I think that how ever you feel after something like that is normal for you, so don't worry about what is normal. If you want to get pregnant again then you should try. You shouldn't feel guilty. You obviously wanted to have a baby. Unfortunately this birth didn't work out the way you wanted, but that is no reason not to try again. Most people have more than one child. You don't hear people saying they feel guilty about wanting another child because they already have one child. I personally think if I lost a child, then I would want to try and get pregnant again. I don't think there is any "right" amount of time to wait. Unless your doctor has suggested you wait for health reasons, then I say go for it.

Answer 5

I think this is a pretty normal thing...everyone handles things in different ways. If getting pregnant is what will help you then I think you should :-) GOOD LUCK