but he is so controlling and possessive that he made ur life impossible...he takes all decisions and make u live the way he decided best for u, make u do things u hate to do it... having wonderful kids, trying to give them the best life u can..
2007-03-27 03:47:47 · 11 answers · asked by Julie R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is me you are talking about my husband is the same way.(but) is right i mean i love him with all my heart and soul. I did leave once for a week and things did get a little better.
2007-03-27 03:57:28 · answer #1 · answered by bette69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there,
I hope you are fine in these tough moments.
You know, no one can feel what you are passing into, even they had the same situation. Because each person had his own life and character.
You say that you love your man and also you never intend to leave him. So i have an advice just as simple and i hope it will let him understand what are you going through.
First, tell your husband that you will make a test to show him what is going on.
Then bring a pet in your house, like a cat by example, or anything that you both would love.
If it's a cat, tell your husband to test it by food matters (somoething that cat like or not). The result will be obvious that if it's something favorite to cats, it will behave joyfully.
And the contrary is right well obvious too.
After that test, talk to him and tell him that even pets don't like controlling and possessing them, even they don't have minds to think or tongue to speak.
I wish that would be a step to change him a little.
As i wish you a good happy life.
2007-03-27 11:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by lello25lb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him. Nobody should live like that. Staying there is showing your kids that his behavior is normal in a marriage. That is wrong. Best decision you can make is to get the h*ll out.
2007-03-27 10:54:40 · answer #3 · answered by Jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will continue treating you this way unless you put a stop to it. Confront him and let him know you are tired of being controlled and you want to make your own decisions. If you dont like to do something, dont do it. For your own happiness you need to make a stand and let him know how you feel.
2007-03-27 10:53:00 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't leave. That's not always the solution. But instead talk to him about it, calmly. He'll understand if he loves you, but also most men are like that. But the best thing to do is talk to him. Let him know how you feel.
Goodluck!
2007-03-27 10:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, really interesting...I know that you love him, but can you still live with the type of person he is. Try going to therapy so that maybe you can work things out.
2007-03-27 10:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by boricua_chick_21 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whats there to love? Love is a 2 way street,
2007-03-27 10:52:31 · answer #7 · answered by Grand pa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm... sounds like my mum with my dad.
best way to make the most of it, is to adapt to that by changing yourself. It would be toooo difficult to change someone that age. With time and observing other people's life, he may change his way of things (this is slowly happening with my dad), but it never worked when my mum tried to tell him to change.
2007-03-27 10:52:56 · answer #8 · answered by Lilliana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk it over with him, and failing that, you two could maybe check out Marriage Counseling?
2007-03-27 10:53:38 · answer #9 · answered by Steven M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are allowing this to happen, seeing how he is not your daddy or your momma you need to have a serious talk with him and tell him to stop trying to run your life.
2007-03-27 10:52:02 · answer #10 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋