OK i have a situation and i need help ok so me and y boyfrind have been together for 7 months and new each other for a year on valentines day i found out that i was pregnant and my first reaction was to keep it so i told my boyfriend about it and we spoke about it. his first initial reaction was to get rid of it , like any typical man he gave me all the excuses in the book on why i should get rid of it which was surprising because i thought he would be happy, he trys to make it seem like it was his desicion so he tels me "oh im broke i ant got this and i aint got that, you live in such and such and im just like what so at another time we have this same convosation nothing he said changed and we had the same convosation a third time except for the last time he said you know what you can have the baby ther just is no garuentee that ill be there and im like what? then he goes i dont want you to think that i dont want to have kids with you im just looking out for your future now tell me Does that make sense or whatWhat is he saying indirectly is he saying that he doesn’t want to have kids with me is he telling me that hes not ganna be there for me and the baby
2007-03-27 03:45:38 · 8 answers · asked by nuri b 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Sounds like he doesn't want to be a father to this child, or be with you long-term, either. It's your choice to keep the pregnancy, but realize you're most likely going to be facing it without your boyfriend's help or support.
2007-03-27 03:55:48 · answer #1 · answered by Morning Glory 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok- let me start by saying this- your boyfriend chose to have sex with you- so I feel he needs to take responsibility- it is not about him or even you - there is a baby -YES BABY- growing inside of you. Please give life to your child- if you cannot raise him/her with or without your BF- place for adoption. I was saved from being aborted by my birth mom who chose life for me- even though it was sacrifice to her.
Also let your BF know that an abortion can cause many problems with you as well- Excessive bleeding- pain, torn uterus, damage to other organs- it is not a walk in the park for you- and also the emotional risks are high- you will never forget taken the life of your child. The child you are carrying has a heart that is beating and the brain waves are already starting to function- Be responsible even if your BF chooses not to be.
2007-03-27 11:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is human, and humans are ALWAYS going to let each other down. But it's not about him now. This is about you and what you have to do. Abortion should never be an option! If you want to raise this child there is all kind of help available for you ( I am envolved with Sav-A-Life , check your area) that ask nothing from you in return. If you don't want to raise this child you should consider adoption. There are really a lot of couples out there that would love to be able to raise your child. Whatever you do, please pray about it.
2007-03-27 11:24:34 · answer #3 · answered by Emily B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok...so u have to do what u feel is right..its ur body and he cannot tell u what to do with it, i think this one is on u baby girl! if you do not decide to have it, just make sure you can live with your decision after the fact. On the other hand if you do decide to have the baby, just know that you and the baby have legal rights and he must respond; even if he does not want to..depending on you and you bf's age,,he might be intimidated or scared that he is going to be a father..im sure you are too,, best of luck to you, and i hope you make the right descision!
2007-03-27 10:59:41 · answer #4 · answered by *u are beautiful in his eyes* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the baby. Take him to court for child support. He may not want the responsibility of a child, but he should have thought of this before he used you for sex. For each action there is a consequence. He wanted you in bed, now he must pay.
2007-03-27 10:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's ready to have sex with you, but he's not ready to deal with the consequences of having sex. He's not ready for a child so he wants you to have an abortion. Personally I'm not against abortion. But in your case If you can't afford to take care of the baby yourself I think you should give it up for adoption. If you do plan to have the baby expect to go to get a lawyer so you can get child support garnished from your dead beat boyfriends pay check.
2007-03-27 11:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by Q~T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he feels he is not ready to have kids. He also told you in a not so straight foward was that if you keep the kid he is not going to stay around. Sadly he can make the choice. I'm not going to tell you what to do not my choice.
How old are the 2 of you anyway?
2007-03-27 10:51:51 · answer #7 · answered by princess2423 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he doesnt want to take responsiblities (sp)
2007-03-27 10:53:24 · answer #8 · answered by buckeyegrl2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋