My co-worker passed away recently. Funeral is coming up and is from 1-9pm. Our work is like a second family. Do you think I should go for the whole funeral? I now my boss is staying the whole thing, the other employee is going for the whole thing except he is leaving for an hour for dinner. The other employee is going for a little bit. What should I do?
2007-03-27 03:31:51 · 14 answers · asked by Stephanie K 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Go for as long as possible. If you are saddened by the passing of your c o-worker and have the time to attend the entire ceremony, do so. You will feel better about it if you do.
2007-03-27 03:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by Rosebudd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how close you were to this person. I've been to many many funerals and I personally feel that visitation is for friends or acquaintances of the person who has died or friends of the family as a sign of respect and a way to allow the family members to know that this person meant something to the people that they came across in their life. A funeral I think is a little more private because that is the day when there is so much emotion for family members and some people feel a little uncomfortable showing their feelings around strangers unless they were close to this person that has passed on.
2007-03-27 10:49:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, is this the actual funeral or visiting/viewing?
During, Viewing, people pay their respects & then come & go.
Funeral, there are services, depending on religion & custom & traditions. Services may include a church or funeral home services, trip to the cemetary or massoleum. There may be also a reception afterwards.
So there are things to check first before one decides the time that you wish to spend
2007-03-27 11:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by gramma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to stay for the whole thing. Just by going in the first place shows that you love and respect that person. Stay for a little while and see how you feel. If you want to leave it is ok. You are a good person just for going and showing some love.
2007-03-27 10:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by Mr.Know It All 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First let me offer you my sympathy for your loss.That is a personal decision.Go for as long as you feel comfortable.If you can stay the entire time then do so if not leave when you feel uncomfortable.Everyone deals with loss in thier own way you have to do what is right for you..When my mother passed away one of my brothers had to leave several times and come back but that is how he was able to deal with his grief and nobody looked down on him for it..Best Wishes and my prayers are with you.
2007-03-27 10:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think depending on how close you were..I would go for what you can, but you are by no means obligated to stay for the entire ordeal. Is it the wake and funeral combined?? Usually the burial portion of it is attended by family members....
If your entire work is going for most of it, then you probably should as well, or they may look down on you...
2007-03-27 10:36:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go for a little while. Maybe 2 - 3 hours. But you don't need to stay the whole day.
2007-03-27 10:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go and leave once the funeral is over if you are uncomfortable.. or if you do not feel like going . then tell them you are not feeling well therefore you are not going!
2007-03-27 10:35:41 · answer #8 · answered by TO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well u shud attend atlest the accual burial and offer ur last prayers of the soul
2007-03-27 10:40:19 · answer #9 · answered by Mellesa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to look inside yourself to decide. Only you know how much this person meant to you. Why don't you just go with no predetermined time limit, and then stay as long as you feel necessary.
2007-03-27 10:34:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋