I posted a question about what should? Get with her or go away? i'm 20, we got together last friday and its brilliant but she still says she wont be able to handle having to wait for someone to come back for like 4 months and that. Should i say to the navy cna i join next January? But will i have to do everythink again? (hope not!)........ Feel so bloody stpuid and my dad say's i should just go in the navy? Plz reply, u'd all be a good help :-)
2007-03-27 03:24:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do you want to be with someone who doesn't support your dreams?
And... if she says she won't wait for you to come back, do you think she really feels the same way you do?
Go to the navy. If it's right with her, she'll wait. If not, you've lost nothing.
2007-03-27 03:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by kelannde 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is a massive decision, its your life and career we're talking about here and you are prepared to sacrifice it all for a girl you've only been with for a matter of days. I really think you should join the navy. Its what you want to do. If this girl really truly cared for you, she would wait. Course she'll find it hard to handle but that's one of the difficulties of being with someone in the forces. And waiting around for them for a few months is better than not being with them at all. besides, you could put it off til January but if you're still together do you really think she'll be happy for you to leave her then when things are more serious and you're a lot closer? It will be ten times harder! If you're meant to be together and if this girl really is special, she'll understand and she'll be there when you get home. Good luck I hope you make the right decision.
2007-03-27 03:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should join the Navy honey. When I met my fiance, he was on the verge of a four month deployment (He is RAF) and I knew he was worth waiting for. If she cannot even wait four months then she evidently sees this as nothing but a fling. Your dad is right, join up. You probably won't even be with her by Jan so why put your career on hold for someone who cannot wait even four months. How would she be every time you boarded a ship?
2007-03-27 04:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont put your life on hold for anyone! fulfil your dreams, there will always be someone else for you, what if five months down the line it doesnt work out? do the best thing and join the navy you wont regret it, especially if you only got together friday
2007-03-27 07:36:20 · answer #4 · answered by fear of the dark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi...my son joined the navy when he was 17, he's 20 now and he loves every minute of it...he also has a girlfriend and it seems to work for him, but he is away for long periods of time, and yes it does cause arguments between them from time to time, but he is happy doing his thing.... if this girl says she cannot wait for you then let her go...your career is more important, you've only known her for a week....your career is more important than girls and you will not have time for girls while your in the navy....go for the navy and get a good career behind you, you will meet some nice girls while your in the navy....dont let this oppotunity pass you by.....go for it...
2007-03-27 03:33:37 · answer #5 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know that at the moment it is all good because you have just got together, but you shouldnt put a good future that you have planned to do. You will regret it if you dont go and you will always wonder what would have been.
If she loves you she will understand.
Good luck xx
2007-03-27 03:59:22 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Claire - Hates Bigotry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to the navy! you have worked hard to get there, you have only just met her and what happens if a few weeks after you should be in the navy you split up how bad will you feel then. you need to go, and she will just have to accept it and if she cant then she obviously doesnt want to be in it for the long haul.
2007-03-27 03:37:17 · answer #7 · answered by J x 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
career is a must in life...it shud b ur priority...u cant just skip tht oppurtunity to be with a girl who wants u to stay near by.
If she loves u then she willl understand....but i strongly feel...u should choose ur career at this time....opportunities doesnt come to ur feet every time...once ur career is set then u should make other priorities ni ur life...its not ur age to hold up ur career make relationships and then worry about stuff..
but career should b a priority...i am sure...if u both love each other..u will find a way to resolve this matter of distant relationships...
good luck!
2007-03-27 03:42:09 · answer #8 · answered by answer it! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if she really love you then she would understand that you have to go, it would be unfair if you're staying and what happend to your future. you have to explain her if you join the navy for the future and that future is for both of you and your future family then she must understand it. i know it's hard being away to your love one as i experience it when my husband was sent to Iraq, it's really hard but i have to understand cause it's his job and i love him too, and that she must understand too! it would be unfair and selfish if one of you would just think for theirself. that's one way aswell to measure how strong your relationship is, if she loves you then she will wait for you, anyway you are not going anywhere with women, you are going away for the job. but it's up to you aswell, it's a love between your girl and your career, but sometimes you have to take the risk. anyway good luck!
2007-03-27 03:36:09 · answer #9 · answered by Simply_Me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋