I am a 21 yr old guy. I had finished my graduation. I find it difficult to speak boldly in front of a group of people. Even I find it difficult with my class mates when they are in group. My mouth and hands get starts to shivering. And many people have noticed it. I feel ashame of myself. I cant control shivering. It comes automatically. And I cant speak boldly because of that. I have good knowledge. But when I am in front of a group of people I cant communicate properly. I am shivering and cant speak properly which sometimes leads to tears in my eyes in front of those people. I am in a good profession. But these incidents are a shame to me and it spoils my image. I want to speak boldly without any fear in front of any group of people( especially literal people ). Please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Help ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-27 03:22:14 · 8 answers · asked by Danndy 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
What you have is stage fright. It's normal. I've heard from people who are on stage every day that say they get nervous in front of people.
They say the trick is to not imagine all of them individually. Think of them as 1. Look at each one and imagine that's who you're talking too. Continually browse the room. Remember, you have an edge, you're the guy up there, so they think you already know what you're doing.
The only other thing is, know what you're going to say and don't stray too far away from it. This is how you keep from saying something you regret under stress.
Good luck . . you must not be too bad, you just sent a message to 2 billion people.
2007-03-27 03:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean when you are in a social group gathering as compared to business talk in front of groups people.?
I'm guessing it's that so we'll go with it.
You are certainly not alone in this. For example I can talk to a male friend, feel relaxed laugh and just be me. But when it comes to something more than friendship, I get very tense and panicky. Though that's more of my own private battle as I have been married... I have also started seeing a psychologist re this.
As far as groups go I don't experience, what you have been explaining.
But I do know that there are some good group Cognitive Behavioral Therapists that you doctor would recommend a good one for you, or you could ring your local mental health clinic (the stigma once attached to such has now lessened to a minimal). There are other such groups you can go to to talk about these issues. Your local hospital should know.
All the best and God bless you Danndy
2007-03-27 10:51:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are afraid of the public and clarely if you know the material there should be no reason for you to fee inconfident about yourself. It is completly normal for you to feel nervous, we are all afraid of messing up or in better words rejection.
You have to find a way to speak out from shell. You are provably shy and have dificulty aproaching people, in this case if your intereset is bean a spoaks person or giving litetarure what ever the case is you have to lear how to talk to people and how to get their attention. That also depends on the subject that you are discusing. When you show conficence and interest in your work that will attrack the audience but it is up to you to make and effort.
I dont have any problems with talking to people, infact I enjoy being infrong of a crow and discusing a subject but I always get nervise so whenever I take the time to practive my speach I turn on my camara and I record myself speaking. That way I have a chance to minor out thinks that I dont like about my speach and also see my expresions and the way I look when I speak to others
trust me try it !!!!!!!!
It can help you build your conficence, if that doesnt work try taking classes that will train your to professionaly talk to the public even if you are scared as hell.....
Jayâ¥
2007-03-27 10:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by jessiegirl_pr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that you are going through this, but why are you so nervous about talking in front of a big group of people for. Have you tried picturing the group of people just in thier underwear, try just looking at one person in the group at a time and think that it's just you and that person in the room. I think there are alot of tricks you can try to make it through speaking to a group of people but you need to believe in yourself, I know you can do it. Just try to be yourself. Are you ok when you go to the movies, maybe make some slides or overheard charts and stuff when you need to do a meeting for your company so you can turn out the lights, that might help you also.
2007-03-27 10:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by Wolfmanscott 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever think that perhaps it's not others that you are afraid of but actually yourself. Maybe you are more afraid of goofing up when you speak or present yourself. You are not alone if that's the case. You just have to understand that the biggest people in corporate America and congress screw up. We are all human. If someone actually thought that it was funny that you messed up, after a little time of you going on, they will forget about it. Find humor in yourself and always make fun of yourself before someone else does. People will actually like you more for it and actually pay more attention to you in a good way. Good luck!
2007-03-27 10:36:35 · answer #5 · answered by Katrina H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The moment you can accept being laughed at, all of that will disappear. I usually welcome it first off, just to get it over with - cause it happens. Learn to laugh at yourself. Realize EVERYONE is the same, NOBODY wants to make a mistake if front of a large crowd.
Think about how you feel when someone in front of a crowd mis-speaks, or trips, or something - I'm sure you don't hold that against them, do you? You just think to yourself, 'Little things happen, it's no big deal.' And the person it happens to just moves on, or laughs it off.
2007-03-27 10:32:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem and it has effected me in school and professionally.
Honestly, the only way to remedy this is to go to a therapist that specializes in this.
No, not a shrink....a therapist that will help modify your behavior. Your company's medical insurance should cover it.
Good luck!
2007-03-27 10:34:46 · answer #7 · answered by SweetPea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay. tune out the whole crowd, just look at people in the front row... pretend like the rest of them are not there. keep your eyes moving. check your presentation often but maintain eye contact... just act like your talking to just that one person. see if you can avoid holding anything and no figgeting.
2007-03-27 10:34:33 · answer #8 · answered by dr.macgruder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋