What would you do,if you found out that YOUR SO CALLED FAMIL Y had been lying to you for years.?

Question

When i was a child,my so called family(2 bros,4 sisters)knew i was not well,treated me like DIRT,THEY ABUSED me in everyway they could.They even enjoyed it.i HATE these aliens, i wanted to die when i was a child because of what they did to me.it,s weird i ended up on medication and they seemed to be happy,getting on with their lifes,and I ended up lifeless.can you dissown your old family through court?jjgreeneyes1

Answer 1

**** i already new my family has been lying to me from the start, it really doesn't bother me much.

Answer 2

I'm going to go out on a limb here, let me see, you are about 16 and hate your family and you are on Ritalin or some other drug because you were diagnosed with ADD or some other sort of psychotic unsocial disorder.
First of all everyone has a miserable childhood through the eyes of a teenager, anyone over 18 is the devil. And as for the pity party you've been having about your abusive miserable lot you want to disown, remember they have raised fed and clothed you, and because they don't cater to you every whim doesn't mean the hate you. You will grow out of this stage and your family will start to seem a lot more normal, so don't do anything now that you may regret later. And grow up life is not perfect.

Answer 3

I am SOOO sorry for your troubles Hun,,,,,,

I have to say I agree with Jackie,,,
that you need to try to figure out a way (therapy would definitely be a plus here) to move on from that hurtful past,,,dwelling on it DOESN'T help your future, you can never successfully move on with your future if you don't let go of your past.
I feel your pain, my family was on the dysfunctional/abusive side as well.
I basically had to just accept the fact that they were my parents, and they did the best they knew how,,,they were no more ideal parents than I was an ideal daughter, took us 33 years to come to this understanding,,,,,,
As for the abuse,,,,if you are under 16-is there a family member, or parents of a close friend that would take you in? If you are 16, you can become an emancipated minor,,,basically divorce your parents and siblings, it has been done.
If you are older than that,,,just do what you can to get you out and on your own, heal yourself so that you don't carry this pain and anger to YOUR future family, and just make sure that you don't allow yourself to make the same life altering mistakes or mishaps that they did with you!
I wish you the best of luck,,,,
just remember,,,you have a lot of ppl here who care,
even if you feel others don't, you always have us here......

Answer 4

I am not clear astowaht the lie was? Were you not related in fact and did not know this?
Any lie is deeply hurtful and I too have been teh victim of many lies and they hurtvery much. I hate and detest those lies now for waht they did to me and yet the perpetrators see no wwrong in what they did and it was supposedly for my own good or seen as not my business. What would I do?
Orwhat have I done about it. Havewalked away from once souce of pain......eventually and intend to re open one ofthe others and hope that might be sen as a person. Thing we have to do tho in orderto move on is deal with it.....and learn to forgive and don't let them rule the rest of our lives.

Answer 5

No one disown their family through court. You can however go to an attorney and find out what you can do to keep them from making any life altering decisions if you were on life support or to incompetent to make the decision for yourself. If disowning them is something you feel in your heart is the thing to do... then you need to forgive them so you can move on. Forgiving them is going to be the hardest thing for you to do, considering, but everything that happened to you as a child up until now will haunt you if you don't let go and move on. I have been in therapy off an on for years b/c of the things that have hap pend to me. I have gotten better b/c i accepted my past as just that my past. My mom legally stole my child from me in 2002 and then forced me to sign adoption papers. I have learned that holding on to what she did only makes it harder for me to see my child and visit with her even when she calls me her sister. Eventually you will be able to forgive, but never forget so the past doesn't repeat its self. I now know if I ever have another child my mother will not be a part of its life or even know about it till it is at least 6 months old. those are the kinds of things you learn, and then you live.

Answer 6

I am so sorry you have been through such a horrible childhood, it must have been like hell not to be loved. You don't need the Courts for you to disown them, just have no contact with them and pretend they don't exist if that is the best way you can deal with it. I know it won't be easy, but if you can find it in your heart to forgive the hurt they caused you, it will benefit you for the rest of your life not to have the bitterness you must be feeling. Just feel sorry for them that they used you as a scapegoat and that they are too ignorant to feel love for their sibling. Good luck Greeneyes, I hope you have a lot of love in your life from now on. Bless xx

Answer 7

Until you are married, your blood relatives are your next of kin. So, technically, no, you can't dissown them entirely unless you had specific legal actions against them (incest, for instance or parental rights revoked by state).

If you want to be rid of them, move to another state and never have contact again. Be sure to see a lawyer in your new state about doing a living will as well as a regular will to exclude them as best you can.

Please note: if you marry and then divorce, your family once again becomes your closest next-of-kin.

Answer 8

If you livein the past it will possess you.
My Mom lied a lot when I was as kid and I did let it possess me and found myself very sick. I now live in the present and its a much nicer place to be, you can change mental state just dont' associate with them anymore and you will heal.
As far as the courts are concerned I suppose if you are an adult you can change your last name and that would keep you from being found by any family again.

Answer 9

you dont need to go to court to dissown them just ignore them if what they did was that bad and my family had been lying to me for years i found out my dad wasnt my real dad when i was 11 after i had already gone through the traumatic time of him leaving my mam when i was 7 and i didnt see him for a year because my mam didnt want him anywhere near me then when i started seeing him again my mam fell pregnant to him so i presumed they would get back together but they didnt and my mam was still depressed and went away for a while i had to stay with my nana.i was only 8 when the baby was born and i was taught to bath him, do his bum,warm his feeds and i even got up in the middle of the night when it was school the next day to warm his bottle and take it to my mam. i did alot for the baby and my mam when i wasnt at school and hardly ever had friends round or went out until i was about ten by which time the baby (my brother was 2) and my mams depression lifted so i had just started to get a childhood back when i was told the news my dad wasnt my biological father and it hurt alot but i didnt say a thing to my mam at the time i pretended it didnt matter and i did still love the man i called dad just the same and still do, however ten years on i try and ask who my real dad is and dont get any answers from my mum and she is the person that should tell me. i have a daughter of my own now and have been with her real father for 6 years but if i hadnt stayed with him i would never have dreamed of hiding the truth from her. i have been through a lot more than just that but thats all most people know about me, and have been on and off anti-depressants for years which my family doesnt really know about as i cant really talk to them about my feelings probably because of what i went through as a child because i always acted brave for my mam so not to upset her any more, so although i am depressed my self i rarely show it to my daughter as i dont want her to grow up thinking she cant share her troubles with me

Answer 10

I am sorry you have such a wicked family. Family should be your foundation not the thorn in your side.

Truth is, you may not be able to disown them legally but you can disown them in practice. Just move away, dont let them know you are leaving , move on and have a succesful life without them (like Dave Pelzer). Thats the sweetest revenge.

God luck

Answer 11

You know you are better than these scumbags that arent fit to be treated as human beings. For years I have thought that I was a horrible person because my family continually made out that I was nasty and horrible to be around. They have told me that I am mental and dont deserve anybody to treat me right. It is only now that I have brilliant friends that tell me that I am not that awful person that I can believe in myself a bit better.

My mother stood by and didnt protect me against my first boyfriend who beat me and called me names - she would tell me I had done something to upset him. All this sticks with me now.

I thought that I was getting on better with my mum but then I met my present boyfriend - she now tries to compete for his attention in front of me, puts me down even more. I am glad that she lives far away from me. On my birthday she never phoned me until the evening and even then she made out like she was doing a huge favour to me.

Everybody goes on about blood being thicker than water but sometimes it is water that is there for you no matter what.

Good luck xx you sound like a brilliant person - dont let these b astards drag you down and make you bitter