Confessions of a guilt free gal?

Question

Can you confess if you don’t feel remorse? Is it possible to morally do bad things when you don’t feel guilty for doing what society believes to be 'bad'? Who decides what you should and should not feel guilty over?
Does breaking a heart and not care make you a bad person? Or just make you realise that breaking up with them was in fact a good idea. Your not evil for not caring about their broken heart, its just that you don’t care for them full stop!
Does quitting your job because they are short staffed make you a bad, uncaring person? Especially if the reason why you are leaving is because they are short staffed and your fed up of doing the work for 3 people?!
Does this make you evil and selfish? Society says ‘Yes it does’. But who says you have to give your life to others when in the long run, they are just work colleagues. If they put you in an early grave will you be lying on your death bed saying “oh but at least I helped someone else make lots of money”? no I didn’t think so.

THIS IS NOT A RELIGIOUS QUESTION: I DO NOT WANT RELIGIOUS ANSWERS!!

Its not that I am an uncaring, selfish person, I’m not. Its just that I get fed up of people conforming to society and always doing ‘what is expected’ of them. Ok I understand there potentially would be chaos if the world did as it pleased, but I’m not talking about that, I’m talking about the pressure of feeling guilty after an event!
I don’t believe its our own morals that make us regret, most the time I bet your thinking “damm I’m glad that’s happened” but to others you have to appear to be grieving/ in remorse/ whatever, just because.
What do you think would happen if everyone thought this way?

Answer 1

Taking care of yourself is NOT a bad thing... you're not evil and selfissh, you're just not a pushover ... Trust me I'm trying to stop being a pushover myself.

Answer 2

Well, I don't think your two examples are the same.

It is a little mean and uncaring to not be bothered by the fact that you've hurt someone else, to the point of breaking their heart. I think there's a common decency that should be practiced with everyone. Say you're in a serious committed relationship, and then you break up with the person and are not tactful in the least about it, then at the first opportunity you make out with someone else right in front of them, feeling it's your right to be happy and you don't care what anybody else thinks and they should be happy for you. That lack of empathy for someone who cared a great deal about you is wrong, in my opinion. Yes, you have the right to be happy, but you don't have the right to continue doing things that you know will make someone else very unhappy.

With the job example, you have every right to quit the job, even if they're shortstaffed and you're overworked. In a working environment, you aren't doing them a personal favor by being there, they're paying you to be there. Your job is a means to an end, and for most people, it is not a personal calling, it's just something you do so you can afford food, clothes, car, a house, whatever. Once again, you should still practice some tact if you leave your job. Be professional and don't make your leaving as hard on your employer as you possibly can. Most likely, your supervisor and the people you work with are in the same position you are, and how would you appreciate it if one of them did something that would suddenly make your life harder? Giving notice allows them to do what they need to to keep things running.

With other circumstances, there are some things that are definately wrong, and some things that are kind of grey area. Murder is wrong. Pedephilia is wrong. Stealing is wrong. In most cases, lying is wrong (however, there is a difference in, say, committing purgery in court and in telling your boyfriend size doesn't matter).

These days, people seem to feel it's their right to be happy and do what they want, without regard to how their actions affects others. These people are selfish, uncaring people. They would not appreciate it if someone treated them the way they treat others. The fact is, we all have to share this space on Earth with everyone else, and if people occasionally gave some thought to how their actions affects others, the world would run much more smoothly. I'm not saying be a martyr or a doormat, but practising a little tact and respect for others can go a long way.

As to your question about whether a person can confess if there is no remorse, that's kind of tricky. I think confession is the act itself, saying you did something. Yes, even a person with no consience can confess. Most often, though (especially in the church), confession and repentance go hand in hand (if one of my kids hit the other one, he has to confess what he did, apologize to his brother, and try not to do it again). It's more difficult to be repentant if you have no remorse, because the remorse is kind of what jump-starts the repentance. You feel bad for what you've done, so you don't want to do it again. If you don't have remorse, you have a harder time not doing the bad behavior, but it can be done.

Answer 3

Confession is admitting or accepting the sin made. This is a common Dictionary meaning. But psychologically it has got more than what said. It shows a persons personality (not physical). Whenever the person makes a sin, he himself feels bad, his consciousness starts hurting him. Irrespective of whether the act was observed by public or not. Hence confession get the person out of guilty consciousness. He feels relieved. Some people do sins, but they present themselves as good people, but it is only a mask. If they do not remove it, one day or other somebody will remove it. This is the greatest shame. once people got to know his real face, they do not forget his face forever nor forgive him. Hence confession is always better, in early stage itself. Some people, really wanted to confess. But they think the people may brand him. It is really not so. They appreciate him (of course with some advices) and with in few days, every one will forget it, and the person will be one among the Community.

Answer 4

In Christianity, and fairly in Catholicism, confession removes the % for a looking of guilt, and additionally serves to do away with even the possibility of divine Judgment. The grace and peace that sometimes consequences from this, is impossible to think of. the actual incontrovertible fact that all people is a sinner has already been satisfactorily proved ... so that's not a pretend concept. heavily learn your very own life for all of the evidence you will possibly desire to %.

Answer 5

I'm goint to keep it short and simple... the majority of the people who do remorceless things are very aware of what they are doing! it gives them a pleasure because they are doing what the long to do and they get credit by others... Criminals for example.
psycho and socio paths along with serial killers enjoy killing and tourturing people... they love the attention that they get from the media, they feel that they are in control and feel power.

Jay♥

Answer 6

One word..."Karma."

Answer 7

JESUS