She's not allowing me to see God for myself. This is hurting our marriage. She doesnt feel Oral Sex is Christian like. She has disowned her friends who are not saved. Help plz help
2007-03-27 02:49:42 · 8 answers · asked by RARE AIR 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She needs to allow you to find God for you and she cannot change you. All she can do is pray for you that God will speak to and change your heart. The only one she has power to change is her and herself and that is with God's help. As long as she is giving you regular sex on a regular basis then dont worry so much about the oral. Love and accept her for where she is at just like you want her to love and accept you for how you feel. This should go both ways. She has a right to chose who she wants to be friends with however and if she feels the old friends are not good for her and her life she should not be at least close friends to them . I dont think she should totally disown them altogether though. Dont push what you want on her like oral sex and friends like you dont want her to push or force religion on you. If you are not happy and want out of this marriage then leave if you are not pleased to dwell with her. If you leave however she is to let you go and she will not be obligated to you anymore.
2007-03-27 03:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yikes. Religion can be a problem and will continue to be if you don't nip it right now. When I married, I made it clear to my husband that I was an atheist and had no interest in being anything but. I told him I would respect his values and religion but would not participate and did not wish to be converted. We agreed that religion would be a topic we would not discuss. I don't force my views on him, he doesn't force his views on me. Was your wife like this prior to your marriage? If so, the situation is your fault as you should have a) discussed your values/religion with her prior to marriage or b) should not have married her. The best you can hope for now is to tell her how you feel and see what happens. As far as oral sex, well, religion in general has never been a proponent of female sexuality so there's nothing I can do to help you there. My guess is that she will not change so you have 2 choices: Put up and shut up or leave her. No amount of counseling will help with religious issues. It's up to you to decide what to do.
2007-03-27 10:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by Lilith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her where in the Bible that oral sex between husband and wife is profane or a perversion. As a matter of fact...there are several references in the book, Song of Solomon (near the center of the Bible) that talk about oral sex and it's great delight in poetic verse.
2007-03-27 10:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try sleeping in different beds or even rooms and be as supportive as possible but left her know without a doubt that she cannot and will not force your religion down any ones throats as it will be grounds for a divorce. Good Luck
2007-03-27 10:33:29 · answer #4 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to my world!
I am half Asian half French, Buddhist and my husband is catholic and Italian. His mother from the moment we announced our engagement tried to sway and push me to convert. To this day she is pleasant to my face and makes me feel somewhat welcome in her home, but she always brings up the religion issue, what about your kids ( we don't have any), its like she is trying to break us down.
I feel no matter where, what, or who is involved religion and faith are yoyour beliefs your feelings, and unfortunate for you ur wife is being ignorant. She cant see you for who your are and from what your information other people as well. No one should be the dominant in a marriage, you need to sit and talk to her, if she doesn't want to hear you out, maybe its time to show her the door!
2007-03-27 10:48:39 · answer #5 · answered by TLC25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too late. She's not going to change. If anything, it's going to get worse.
2007-03-27 10:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God help you
2007-03-27 10:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by naseldrip 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is brain washed, RUN.......
2007-03-27 10:12:31 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋