Should my husband give support other than financially to the mother....?

Question

Should my husband give support other than financially to the OTHER WOMAN( who is the mother of 2 his kids)?

I think I phrased this wrongly.He had the affair while married to me and she became pregnant for him.We have 3 kids.I am asking if he should give HER support other than financially not he kids.I understand about the kids but not her

D D Actually it is the other way around.She has her relatives to support her.I am the one alone since my husband is never at home with us and my relatives all live abroad

Answer 1

I pay child support and see my daugther often, but there's no way in hell that I would offer any other form of support to my ex, whether it be money, moral support, etc.

Answer 2

Yes he should support his children but I cant believe that he had an affair and then produces two children and you have stuck with him. Sorry to be so negative.
And reading between the lines do you perhaps think the affair never ended?
The only reason he would need to support "the other woman" is if one of the children was ill or something like that.
I think you need to take a step back and have a good long look at what is going on around you.
If he is telling you one thing and another is happening would you be able to tell

Answer 3

Ah, I see. If he is finally going to commit him self to you then he needn't be around this other woman. The child(ren) are the only thing that matters. Unfortunately if the 2 of you are going to be together you're going to have to accept his other child into your life. Just remember it's not the child's fault and if your going to keep your marriage together you musn't throw it in his face even though the child will be a constant reminder. As far as $ goes if she's $ hungry I wouldn't even pay child support if you can avoid it. Who knoes what she'll spend it on. If possible I'd try to buy things for the child myself and keep receipts to prove that your taking care of the child if that will work. Bless you for putting up with this! and Good Luck!

Answer 4

/you are in a really tough situation. you got kids and you must really love him to put up with such disrespect.
This will most likely happen again and again.
Is he really worth this much pain and humiliation?
You need checked for std .
If you have sex with him he is exposing you to what ever he may had picked up from his other women.
It could be fatal.
Is he trying to tell you that he is giving her emotional support and spend time with her and their kids.
Tell him you are not sharing and that it is immoral and against the law and plain stupid to have more than one wife.
If you divorce this loser your children get child support and hers get what is left.

PLEASE read Dr. Phil's book loving smart
I have been in your shoes.
Cheating mates seldom change,

I have a wonderful man in my life now. I got counseling, sought God worked on my issues.
It wastn that i loved him that much, It was i needed so bad to be loved i settled for what ever crumbbs he was tossing me and fighting over that crum wasn't worth. He is the booby prize.
True love isn't over the rainbow. Sometimes it is right around the corner, I had to turn lose of the bad before God's best came into my life. It wasn't easy. You can be with someone and still be alone. Sister that is where you are now and where i used to be. God bless you dear and don't take this crap.!

Answer 5

I really feel for your situation. You are the one caught in the middle here. The only support he owes is his child support. He doesn't owe her anything financial, emotional or anything else. He is obligated to pay his support for the children, but that is it. You didn't state whether or not he sees the children, but if he does, then he is doing his part with them, like he should be.........he doesn't owe her a hill of beans. Good luck and all I can say is you are stronger than me for staying with him.

Answer 6

Yes. I have one child and I am still with the father but I came from a home where I only have one whole brother and I have 3 half sisters and 1 half brother. My dad would always make sure to spend time with his other kids. It is important for them to have a father in their life. How would you feel if you had a child with your husband and he left and didn't want to spend time with your child.

Answer 7

I wouldn't want my fiancee (1 daughter) should have no other kind of communication with the mother of his child other than that of his child. If the conversation has nothing to do with their child, then I don't think any talking should be done. You are good allowing him to even do anything financially for her. Unless of course the children reside with her. But that's just how I feel about it.

Answer 8

He should help support his kids but he is not responsible forher. She is should to support herself.

So many woman want to sit on their fat asses while the ex pays all the bills. She is suppose to support 1/2 of those kids too!!

Answer 9

Yes. It is their kids. That means they are both responsible for their care - and not just financially. As a mother she will face obstacles raising these kids and she will need his help. They need to make decisions together about their children's future. If he is just handing her money and then turning the other way, he is forcing her to raise these children by herself.

Answer 10

He is only responsible for the welfare of his kids and not the mother. If she can't take care of them then she need to turn them over to him. Talk to him about it and if he refuse to see your point. Put this out to him. 1) that he take custody of the kids and the two of you raise them. 2) that you're willing to let him go back to her and you move on with your life.