i have been married for 1 year to a women i love so very much. i have a daughter that is 4 years old. the mother interupts our marriage so much with crazy lies and i am in iraq and away from my daughter so the way i get into contacts with her was through her mom i have had to quit that because the mother calls my wife and rubs it in that her husband called her and tells my wife about prior things we did in our relationship. i now have a 1 month old with my wife and i pay child support on time every time i want her to stay in her lane and not dissrupt our marriage. how can i keep her in her lane and leave me and my wifes relationship alone. how do i keep her in her lane and to leave are relationship alone because i know my baby's mom is in my life but not in my relationship. this is the only thing my wife and i argue about and with out this drama me and wife would be perfect!!! What can i do? please help!
2007-03-27 02:44:28 · 10 answers · asked by Josh W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh very easy. First of all to keep things cool and calm she shouldn't have your home phone number. She should only be able to contact you or a person you appoint. Change you home number and tell your wife why u want to do it. And if she starts coming by the house tell your wife not to be friend that woman.
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2007-03-27 02:51:06 · answer #1 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact is, your ex-wife will be in your life forever. When you get back from Iraq, have a meeting with your wife, daughter, and ex-wife. Put everything on the table and let all of them understand the situation and relationship you will have with them going forward so there will be no continued misunderstanding btw everyone. Let your ex-wife know that you will never get back with her and that it's over for you two and that the relationship you are having now is for the sake of your daughter. Don't ruin it. Do this in front of your wife and daughter. BE open. Good luck and god Bless.
2007-03-27 03:15:51 · answer #2 · answered by MissNoName 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all i am going to say this i do not know what you are going through yet. although i am just seventeen my dad and mom are the same way except there is a twist in it. My parents were married for 14 years & they have 5 childern together. Me the oldest, my sister, my sister, my brother, and my sister. We do not see our dad because of his new wife and the factor that she tells him that we never call. My brother is mentally retarded and my sister who is just nine has a blood disorder. My father could care less. His new wife has a daughter that i know of that is 16. My father will not even call us to check on us. It really hurts sometimes because my sister cries alot for him. so does my brother. I love my dad but i would not save him if it come down to it. he was never there for me and he is not here now. i am about to be a mother at only 17 i called my dad and now he does not even want me as his daughter anymore it hurts but what keeps me strong is my mother. And i praise you for calling your daughter and talking with her. Maybe when you get back you will go and see her. But your wife should understand just a little bit. And your baby's momma needs to keep her mouth shut about what happend in your relationship to her. I hope the best for you and wish that you keep an open relationship with your daughter. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-03-27 02:57:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. Me & my soon-to-be husband have kinda the same problem. His daughter just turned two & its getting harder each day because his daughters Mom is an idiot. (No, I am not putting her down because she is the babys mom, but she really is.) I think you need to either get a lawyer & try to get full custody or have some written agreement between you & your daughters Mom. If anything, when you call talk to her again, tell her to BUTT OUT. If you don't say anything, then she won't stop. You gotta stand up & tell her exactly how you feel. If she pulls the, "You will never see or speak to your daughter again." ..Well, better get a lawyer & do what you can because that is your daughter too. Talk to your wife though, explain to her how ignorant she is, & just talk it out. Me & my fiance' have this thing where if one of us starts fighting about his daughters Mom, we have to call each other out on it. He has to say, "Jalyn, shut up & breathe. Just stop before you say something you'll regret & honest, I don't wanna fight with you. I love you." & I have to SHUTUP. I can't continue 'cause that is violating the rule.
If anything, I wish you the best of luck! =D
2007-03-27 02:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by xjalyn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Carry her to court and tell the judge about it and as him to fix it so that she can not call your home any More. you can also ask the judge to fix it so that a family member can bring the child to you. you do not have to put up with that. take her to court and tell the judge every thing and he or she will fix it for you.Tell the every thing . Start recording your phone calls and carry it with you to court and let the Judges hear all the things that are being said. and thin you will not have to worry any more, but be for that take out a warrant on her for harassment the when it go's to Court let the Judges hear the taps.
2007-03-27 02:58:19 · answer #5 · answered by some one that cares 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Josh. Step up to the plate and tell your ex to get a life! Let her know that you call the shots and her relationship with you will suffer a great deal if she does not stop the nonsense. Good luck and God bless.
2007-03-27 02:52:32 · answer #6 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your ex wife is using your daughter to punish you. Your wife should avoid talking to her if she could. If she calls, just hang up on her. You should tell you ex, if she keeps on doing this, you will not be able to see them. Your family should come first.
2007-03-27 02:52:40 · answer #7 · answered by Kimora Miranda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
blow yr ex's head of with a shotgun(yr serving in Iraq..weapons training..lol)
OK...SERIOUSLY:-
Tell her to quit it and leave your family alone. If she dosent listen then threaten her with police action....If she still dosent listen call a lawyer and sue her sorry *** off!!
(and dont really be crazy enough to kill her or somethin like tht)
2007-03-27 03:00:36 · answer #8 · answered by Porous G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get in a time machine and don't reproduce with someone you are not married to. I'm sorry, but this is what happens.
2007-03-27 02:50:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
pray pray!
2007-03-27 02:51:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋