We have been together for 6 years. He always belittles me infront of our kids ages 2 and 1 he does not respect me well anyways does anyone know if I can leave him legally and take the kids I do want him to be apart of their lives I just don't trust him to raise them he is a very angrey person and sometimes he takes it out on our kids.
2007-03-27 02:41:41 · 6 answers · asked by countrygirlofaz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hmmmm,,,, living together for 6 years with two children, in many places in the world you are considered to be in a common law marriage. Suggest that you get some family counseling for each of you (it's what is best for the children). If he refuses, (for any reason) then you will know that he feels that you and the kids are not important enough to him to improve himself . At that point in time, take the kids, leave him, contact a good attorney, get a divorce (if possible), and get child support. I am not sure that having him be in the kids lives is healthy for the kids.....adults with anger issues and little kids is not a good combination.
2007-03-27 03:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by Dennis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can leave him legally-he is just your boyfriend. Sure you have kids together which makes it a little complicated but I'm sure you have things working in your favor to some degree, especially if he has an anger/temper problem. Does he even realize what he is doing? I would confront him about what he is doing then take it from there. Don't just up and leave-unless he gets physically abusive with you or the kids.
2007-03-27 09:48:59 · answer #2 · answered by barbiebabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to work out what supressed rage he's got before it overpowers him completely.
Talk to him about the possibility of spending some time away from each other so he can work out what's going on. Ask him to think about it, and that threatening you will only make things worse (if he has no intention of identifying his anger, he will use it against you... and himself in the long run!)
Ask him to leave the house, maybe go to another town, city, state or even country for a while- take a holiday- to work out his issues.Or tell him you'll go.
Unless you don't love him anymore- then that's a whole other story!
2007-03-27 09:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by canguroargentino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two aren't married then there is little to no legality involved. If it comes to the point where you need to sue him for custody, then do so, but if you two aren't married, you can leave him and get a restraining order put on so he can't come near you or your kids.
2007-03-27 09:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by Lillian M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest counseling and if he doesn't want to do it, get out of there! Think of it this way, do you want your children to be like him? If you think no, you need to leave.
2007-03-27 09:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its your falt you just want to have fun and you dont realize the problem with that and it has lots of affect on the kids .i bet i am the only one who cares to answer your qestion.
2007-03-27 09:47:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋