My wife has turned into a religion fanatic.?

Question

Its putting a strain on our marriage. no sex, no drinking, no friends. What should i do? I've talked to her but nothings change.

Answer 1

This happens sometimes. How long have you been married and how long has it been going on. If it's been going on less than a year, give it another year to see if she gets over it. You could also try talking to the preacher at the church she's attending (I say church because this sounds Christian - my apologies if I am incorrect).

Please try to give us a little more info. Good luck!!! :)

Answer 2

Your the only one that knows your wife in person but for her to turn into religion frantic,it's a bit to much. Was she in so much stress that she can't talk to you about it? What type of religion did she join in? Religion do not say that if you become part of their church, you have to give up everything in your life. The only religion that I know and maybe you've heard it,is some kind of "colt", this type will brain wash people so they can become of their families. Without asking your wife, try to investigate where she goes to Church, and when you find out check the background of the group that's she's in, and from there you can do something and focus on your wife so she will not end up like those crazy people that's using god to invite innocent.....

Answer 3

Your wife has turned her life over to God and this is a good thing HOWEVER she may have gone a little too far with some of it too fast. I understand why she quit drinking but what do you mean by no sex... Since you are her husband he giving her life to Christ does not change the fact that she is still your wife and needs to be intimate with you and give you sex. Why did she stop having sex with you? Were you expecting her to sleep with other guys or people or just with you? If it is just with you she is in the wrong here for with holding sex from you as her husband. Also what do you mean by no friends? She may not want to hang out with non Christian friends who are a bad or negative influence on her or her life and she may want to have Christian friends instead. What religion did she switch to if i may ask?

Answer 4

I agree with many good answers here, but there is something more - I have a bit different idea. I think, you two should read the Bible together. This is what one of the leaders of my community used to do regularly together with his wife. They read some passages of the Bible out loud together. This is just one possible method, but you could try even this. Or you can choose any other method by which you can read the Bible together and talk about it. After all you have the same purpose. If you do this, you might understand much better all the treasures of the Bible you have not known so well this far (by studying that together), and you will have a much deeper spiritual, emotional and intellectual community with your husband, than this far. Throughout your spiritual journey you should remember that the best way is love - see 1 Cor 13. This is pretty much the essence of Christianity and of the Bible (my other favorite is Rome 8). So you should speak about it more, than about other biblical parts and try to really live according to it. And you could talk about your small successes in this to each other day by day. I think that mainly this - growing in gentle, unselfish love - is why the Bible was given to us by God. It is true that social life as well as sexual life are normal parts of marriage in usual cases, but you got your husband to have this great adventure of your whole life together - even, where it is not that usual -, so then why do not you go together with him in this. Reading the Bible more and being eager about faith - these are not so weird, futile or sinful things one should avoid. If you follow him and go where he is (I mean if you read the Bible together with him and talk with him about what you read), then you might find his way even more interesting and useful for you, than what you expected first. And besides this way you might help him that he become more loving and avoid just repeating passages without real profit. (Real profit - of course, it is not always obvious. Some biblical passages might mean a spiritual profit only in years, when one can more deeply understand it or live it.) I think that if you have a closer community with him this way, in a closer relationship you can make him understand better the necessity of some sex or social events he might have forgotten a bit in this spiritually thriving period. And you might find that love became even more important, central in these latter for both of you, than before - if you used the Bible well... :-)

Answer 5

She is probably trying to find her own inner answers. This is a toughy because it's easier to do when everyone around you does too. (Like quitting smoking is easier if you are never around smoke!) Try your best to support her by not intentionally doing things to upset her. If she isn't comfortable with drinking..maybe you could get some sodas and a good movie to snuggle up with. If she doesn't like to hang with the friends that means she wants to be surrounded with a group of people that bring out her best. Learn with her but keep in mind (and out-loud) that you want to find your own way..not be led. If you show her respect she should return this by not judging! After all...no person has the right to judge another.

Answer 6

Well... No sex is not "religious," nor would God want that. He created sex to be a beautiful union between husband and wife. That should not be an issue with her, if so... I'd be concerned about her views of God and religion.

God does not ask us to change our lifestyles and not have sex or drink or hang out with friends. However, the more you learn about God and grow to love Him... the more you naturally begin to stray away from things that are not good for you spiritually.

I'm not sure about the sex thing... but not drinking anymore, is that really a problem? I've had 2 friends die in car accidents because of alcohol... not sure I would be complaining about that one.

As for the "no friends" thing. Maybe these "friends" aren't uplifting, maybe she needs to find new friends. Maybe you should try to support her in this instead of wanting things your way.

Have you asked her about it? Tried to understand her side? Even desired to?

You may never agree with her, but you should at least try to support and encourage her in what she wants to do with her life.

Answer 7

talk to your wife again ang remind her of the vocation she has taken(the married life). Also try to explain to her that there is nothing wrong with being Godly but not to the extent that you are already compromising the family's happiness. Sex is part of a married and part of her responsibility as a wife and that's in the bible.Drinking is also not prohibited not unless it is already beyond limits, again this is in the bible.Having friends is also part of a human nature to socialize but just to take note to choose the right friends. You see,God only have the ten commandments and definitely it doesnt have any prohibition about sex,drinking or friends...good luck

Answer 8

I totally know how you feel, my husband quit drinking cold turkey in 2000, two years ago he quit chewing tobacco, he is becoming his parents!!! He came from old fashion parents who don't believe you need anything new until the old is broken (same furniture for 20 yrs) His parents are extremely religious every time we see them the tell us how they are praying for me to understand the need for church. I come from parents who still know how to have a good time and they keep up with the current style of things. We have been married 16 years and I just don't see us coming to an agreement on this. Mabye we should run away together!!

Answer 9

Sounds like your wife is going through something. Religion can be a source of comfort and discovery. Talking to her about what she needs to change is not the solution, just a control mechanism. She needs to change nothing. What needs to change is your attitude. You do not need to embrace the religion yourself, but you do need to listen and try to understand why she went in that direction in the first place. You may find a better person there.

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Answer 10

Religon? That does not stop you from sex, friends or drinking...She just doesn't want any of it any more....she is sick of it all....so she is using religion as an excuse..don't believe it!! She is a control freak...wants you to do what she wants you to do...run if you have no children...if you do then both go to therapy....go to church first and talk to her priest ..BOTH, you and her go...see what he says when you tell him this....tell him this infront of her no matter what she wants.... you both be there..if she won't she is using that as an excuse and you busted her...if she will go with you he will tell her what I just said...religion doesn't do that to people!!!! OH BROTHER!