Im 16 weeks pregnant and in 5 weeks time due my second u/s but we could go private before that if we want to know the sex of our baby. Im really torn as to wether i want to know. I want to know so I know what to expect, my first daughter was a surprise and it was nice.
Im torn between if we knew what it was the news would be "he has been born" INSTEAD of "its a girl or its a boy"
i dont know part of me wants to know part of me doesnt so thought id ask for a voting thing on here, who would and who wouldnt want to know and why
2007-03-27 01:57:07 · 33 answers · asked by Angie 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Oh no it will be like opening your Christmas present in the summer!
Waith for the lovely surprise - it is one of the best parts of the long wait of pregnancy and then the wonderful surprise seeing what you have been blessed with.
Good luck whatever it is.
2007-03-27 02:00:08 · answer #1 · answered by London Girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know some people want it to be surprise, but why not let yourself get excited about finding out in 5 weeks time instead of waiting another 5 months? It's easier to get organised if you know the sex of you baby, and you can also make plans regarding your home. If I have another girl, they'll have a lovely girly room togethor. If I have a boy next time, I'll decorate our spare bedroom in boys colours and get more boys clothes. I know it doesn't really matter when they're very young, but it's nice to be organised! If you only have a 2 bedroomed house, It's also handy to know whether or not a move in the not too distant future is on the cards. It's definately a personal choice thing, but like I said, it doesn't ruin the surprise by finding out early. You could make a really nice day of it! Organise an early appointment, then go shopping afterwards and maybe have a celebratory dinner in a nice hotel afterwards. It could be a really lovely occasion! Lets face it, you'll be so knackered if you find out at the birth, that you're just relieved it's over and everything is ok. I know when we have our next one, I want to find out and have a really special day to remember while doing it! Good luck, whatever your decision. x
2007-03-27 03:18:40 · answer #2 · answered by scamp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends...are you the sort of person who likes surprises or not? Would you rather know what your christmas present was 3 weeks in advance by peeking under the bed and having a look, or would you rather have some anticipation and unwrap it on the day?
I think a surprise is lovely. My little one is due in a month and I have no idea whether boy or girl and I love not knowing. It makes waiting for the day even more special!
My sister in law just had her baby. When I told family members the news, at least 2 went 'How nice? What did she have. Oh, I remember, a boy'. It takes away the excitement for everyone.
There aren't many surprises in life and for the sake of some slightly trickier shopping, I think it's well worth not finding out.
2007-03-27 02:12:45 · answer #3 · answered by Ricecakes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you should find out. Your first was a surprise, so change things up. Its so much better being able to get the baby either boy or girl things anyway instead of all yellow and greens. I think you should find out, no matter what nothing can take the excitement away from you once that little peanut is born. Whether you know or dont know shouldnt change anything, I know I'd be just as happy either way.
2007-03-27 02:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by ELW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Went through this dilema ourselves 6weeks ago, in the end we went for not to. We just decided that it is 1 or the other. It's our 2nd aswell have a little boy 3 at end of May, baby due end of June. I have all the stuff I can recycle, but also intend to make sure this baby isn't all the hand me down kid so even if another boy there'll be probaly as many new clothes as if a girl. Never found out with our son either, I was out cold through c-section with general anesetic and my husband was stuck in a corridor with sheer shock, so this time if only for that few seconds we'll have the boy/girl thing. Plus it's fun guessing and I just love people looking at your bump telling you what they predict. Only you can decide with your partner.
2007-03-27 11:34:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have decided to find out (though I don't agree that it is selfish not to!) My view is that the surprise might be nice for the 'its a girl/boy' announcement but the key bit of news is that a baby has arrived. I don't think the surprise will make the day any more special for us as a family and I like that I will know a little more about the little person inside me.
2007-03-27 02:16:44 · answer #6 · answered by Eliot 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I found out with all my babies what they were going to be. I will say though when I was pregnant with my 3rd son and I found out he was yet another boy it was very upsetting to me. (I know that is selfish but can't help how you feel right) When he was born and I seen him it so didn't matter anymore and part of me wished I wouldn't have found out. On the other hand I am expecting a girl this time around andd was so happy to find out because I got to put up all the blue and shop for all the pink!!
2007-03-27 02:13:27 · answer #7 · answered by got all I need 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its better to know. Since you already had a suprise with your first daughter, then you already had the experience. Now you should try knowing what your having better. Therefore, you can do the nursery, and buy pink or blue clothes instead of all white and yellow, and I think its just better to know! You will refer the baby as "it" since you wont know if "its" a boy or girl. You will have a better time to figure out the name, cuz youd only be looking for either girl/boy instead of both. Theres just so many reasons!! ITS JUST GREAT TO KNOW!! Hope I helped! You should give it a try ;-)
2007-03-27 02:08:41 · answer #8 · answered by curious789 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going for my 20 week u/s next week. I've decided that I don't want to know, since it's my first. For my second, I plan to find out, so that I can prepare the first child.
My husband wants to know and IS finding out next week. We have an agreement as to how he is to proceed with that knowledge.
We pregnant people change our minds a lot. I'd say that if you have any doubt at all, don't do it, because you could regret it later. You can always find out if you change your mind- it will be in your medical chart. I've also heard of women having the sonographer write it down and then they keep it until they decide.
The choice is yours, but since you've already been surprised once, I'd find out what it is so you can prepare your daughter.
2007-03-27 03:54:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found out on both my children as the first one my husband wouldnt wait and on the second we wanted to know if we had to go and buy all new things ie if it was a girl then we would have to buy all new clothes etc as we have a little boy.
As it turned out we are having another boy so there is less expense. Although the surpise is nice I think it is also nice to know as you can plan everything. I had a real bond with my first son as we named him and we used to chat to him before he was born. I was able to sort out alot of paperwork before he was born as we knew what we were going to call him etc.
Good luck and enjoy it
2007-03-27 02:03:50 · answer #10 · answered by entertainer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, especially if it helps your daughter prepare for her sibling. Taking positively to a child about what will happen can help them feel secure about what will happen when the baby comes home. We found out for our second child and it also helped so much with the financial planning. We somehow felt more excited about the pregnancy. When the phone calls were made the people were still excited as we kept the name a secret. There was still the weight and description of the baby for people to have as new info.
Best of luck to you all.
2007-03-27 02:34:13 · answer #11 · answered by avoiding the ironing 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋