ive been told to look at my part in the relationship ending.
ide like to hear back on how to over come and be a better me.
how do i look at this in the best light .i am a christian.
2007-03-27 01:41:11 · 5 answers · asked by vanstone_2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since you identify yourself as Christian, I hope you don't mind if I use Christian terms.
First off, know that God forgives you, and that you can also therefore forgive yourself. By saying this, what I mean is that there is no point carrying guilt about your part in the relationship's end. Guilt will only lead to depression, rather than to personal growth.
Instead, heed the words of the person who advised you to look at your part in the breakup. Examine what happened with a clear mind. While God forgives you for your mistakes, He also expects you to learn from your mistakes so that you don't repeat them.
So, think back on several things: how you chose the person to be with; what happened when the two of you disagreed; the ways in which your values and personalities were compatible or not; your levels of maturity and responsibility; etc. As you think over these things, you will discover that you made some mistakes. Once you identify your mistakes, it's a matter of resolving never to repeat them.
Congratulations on trying to improve yourself. Too many people bounce from relationship to relationship without ever stopping to learn from their mistakes or trying to make themselves into better people.
2007-03-27 01:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The above is good advice, focus on your relationship with God first.
You may ask your former partner to give you honest feedback. What was it about you that encouraged them to end the relationship. They may or may not provide the feedback. Don't expect it, but if provided, thank them for their feedback. Don't defend, just thank them.
Ask your church if there is a mentoring program. Do they have folks they consider a success at living the Christian life that will take a mentoree under their wing and work with them to help them improve what they need to improve.
2007-03-27 01:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact you're looking for answers is a really good start.
Be honest with yourself
if you're Christian then hopefully there'll be a local study/social group of people your age which you can join which can provide a lot of opportunity for growing your understanding of good relationship building. I think that'd be your best bet. It won't happen overnight.
2007-03-27 01:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by onefineham 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your a christian, then I recommend you look to God to make what he wants of you. If you focus on serving Christ, then the rest will come in God's time and in God's way.
2007-03-27 01:46:42 · answer #4 · answered by Lady M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pray and just be the best person you can be.
2007-03-27 02:38:35 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋