I have 4 jobs and i'm in school full time. I'm so tired of being on a schedule i never have time to go out and have a good time. All i do is work and go to school. Now I'm thinking about finding a man that can support me and marry him and be a stay at home wife. I want to travel the world and write. I know this sounds very naive and unrealistic but i have had several offers. i just don'e know what to do what do you guys suggest?
2007-03-27 01:28:50 · 18 answers · asked by tweetstuff27 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get use to working. You have a lifetime of working ahead of you. You really shouldn't use someone just so they will support you. It never works out. You're going to be divorced and in the same situation you're in now, anyway. More than likely, you'll have to work when you're married. Can't travel without money!
2007-03-27 01:42:52 · answer #1 · answered by Pom♥Mom Spay and Neuter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you shouldnt have to work 4 jobs unless your extremely high maitence woman. And most men now a days dont want stay at home wives. If your married and you stay at home its because you have kids, and thats non stop work, never getting to go out. Plus its not always the most respected job in the world, so its not so glamourous when you work all day and your husband comes home and complains about dinner being ready.
I suggest to finish school. And if your not in university yet. Or during your university break. Try googling Au Pairs in Europe. These are live in nannies that American or British couples higher while they work in different countries. My friend was an Au Pair in France and Switzerland. You usually work 30 hours a week, get free rent and free food. And then some money ontop of that. Most spend their weekends travelling seeing Europe. Since travel is very cheap in Europe if you use the right transportation.
You could see Europe, write, have a job, and then when your vacation is over come back and go to school, and work. Theres are plenty of ways to have your cake and eat it too, you just need to know how to find them.
2007-03-27 01:48:43 · answer #2 · answered by Zenthae 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are suggesting certainly happens every day. You want to be a "kept woman", which is in essence a glorified whore. You give him your goods, and he makes sure you have the things you want - in your case, no job, travel, and the financial freedom to sit around and write the Next Great American Novel.
The fact that you have a couple of offers on the table means you at 18 have already been actively shopping your p*ssy around. Now you can hang some nice words on it and call this guy your husband, but you are selling your body to the highest bidder -- and I can hang some tinsel on a cat turd and call it a christmas tree, too.
You've had to grow up way too fast at just 18 with the numerous jobs that keep you running on a very long and busy and tight schedule. How about getting some student grants and loans and going down to one or two jobs that perhaps you spend more time at or pay a bit better so you aren't wearing 4 paper hats and working at 4 different drive thrus?
The path you want to follow "works" on a very superficial level, but remember if a man buys you, he thinks he owns you. And men treat their bought and paid for p*ssy slaves very differently from their loves. You'll have the things that you want on your list, but never the true unpurchased love and freedom and soulful connection you crave.
2007-03-27 01:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have four jobs? That sounds extreme?
If you're a stay at home wife, you can't travel the world and write. I know this from experience - it is my ambition too. What kind of offers have you had?
I wouldn't use a man just because I'm tired of working. Rather finish your education and get a job you enjoy. Much more fun.
2007-03-27 01:38:57 · answer #4 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound naive, it sounds like you want to use a man to support you.
If you go this route, suggest a pre-nupt, protecting your provider from you if you decide to later "follow you heart" or that it was a mistake to marry this man.
Whatever you do, don't have children with this man unless you are planning to remain married until death do you part.
It wouldn't be fair to him or the children if you have a child with the "utility husband" and then realize you didn't ever love him. Even if you don't, any kids probably will love their father and not want to be separated from either of you.
2007-03-27 01:59:08 · answer #5 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion....keep up the good work girl! There needs to be more people like you! Don't marry a man for money.....just have a boyfriend that is a sugar daddy.
I know how you feel though, I hope you are studying for a high paying career. If you are then eventually you will start work in your career and not have to work 4 jobs. Things get better with time.....trust me.
2007-03-27 01:46:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wake up, your having a nightmare. SAY WHAT. In todays world a woman best be able to stand on her own two feet with or without a man, cause most marriages don't take the time to make it. And yes you are very naive and very unrealistic.
2007-03-27 01:36:46 · answer #7 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let me guess, you're a full time student and you have 4 jobs... you must have a kid or two, otherwise you would not be working four jobs.
As far as you being a stay at home wife, it'll never work, you are farrrrr too ambitious for that.
2007-03-27 01:35:58 · answer #8 · answered by huckleberry1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
leave two jobs or do job u enjoy with but never take a man just cos ure tired. with man u dont love u will be tired much more than ure now. and forget it baby he will never support ure travel adventures. if he want u ,he will keep u at home. hold on, finish school. dont loose ur freedom. gl
2007-03-27 02:09:45 · answer #9 · answered by moni 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow your creative urges where they lead you because that will bring you the most happiness in life. You would always wonder what would have become of your dream if you simply marry and have children. Follow your heart and dreams and your happiness will be unparallel. Good luck!
2007-03-27 01:50:54 · answer #10 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋