My ex is the biggest loser in the world! He's been drilling our daughter for information on my personal life. He has no job due to an injury, lives with differant people all the time, and is nothing but a user and expects people to give him money all the time. My daughter loves him endlessly and I know she is too young to realize the kind of person he is. How do I stop him from involving her in his stupidity? If I had the money, I would take him back to court. Help please.
2007-03-27 01:21:37 · 16 answers · asked by Nunya 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This man is also involved in drugs! He's an alcoholic. Like I said, a loser. To me, this man has no rights to his daughter until he grows up!
2007-03-27 01:28:57 · update #1
I have never, and would never bash my daughters Father to her; although it is very hard sometimes because she thinks I'm the bad guy sometimes.
2007-03-27 01:30:04 · update #2
My daughter is six.
2007-03-27 01:31:33 · update #3
Littlemama-You don't know the half of what this**shole has put my daughter through. I am not the bad parent here. She is not safe with him. I don't know how I can be classified as the "Loser" here. This man is in it for himself and himself only! He has no concern or regard for his daughters safety or well being. He hurts her all the time by saying he's going to see her and doesn't. So the real "Loser" here is someone posting an idiotic comment like that when they don't know the half of what my poor child has gone through!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My daughters well being if first in my life!! Not his!! You need to post a comment somewhere else where you actually have a clue as to what you're talking about!
2007-03-27 01:56:15 · update #4
I can't agree with the others about you talking to your daughter about this. She is young and you don't want her to be in the middle, that makes you no better than him. You need to either talk to him or go to the courts with what you know and talk to them. If you don't feel the influence of him on your daughter is a positive one, then you need to do something legal about it. Everyone can say all they want about he's the dad he deserves a relationship with his child, but until he can respect himself enough to provide a loving safe home for he, he doesn't deserve anything. Check your state for legal aid, if they have it then you can get some help on this. I wish you the best of luck
2007-03-27 01:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how old your daughther is but if she is old enough to understand maybe you could sit her down and talk with her let her know that she doesn't have to be in the middle of the two of you and the next time that he asks personal questions about you it might be better if she said that if he really wants to know he should ask you directly. This takes it out of her hands so that she isn't in the middle and lets him know in an off hand way how it's none of his business but if he really wants to know then he can ask you and you can either tell him or tell him to get lost and mind his own business.
2007-03-27 01:30:22 · answer #2 · answered by freyja5683 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe u could speak to his parents or someone you know who would listen to him, to let him know this is not fair on your daughter.
If you cant talk to him then write a letter to him and give it to him next time he drops your daughter off, Explain to him that using children in this way only does them harm in the long run, Also say apart from this what you do your a very good dad. Ask him not to spoil his chances as a father.
He also needs to know that his personal life is up to him,and yours is up to you(as long as the child comes first)
Try this approach, What have you got to loose!!!
BEST OF LUCK!!!
2007-03-27 01:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit your daughter down and speak to her on privacy issues.
Start by telling her you know how important her father is to her but since the situation between him and you is now different, she needs to learn how to strike a balance between both mother and father.
Through examples, tell her how she would feel if her best friend gave away secrets about her crushes, etc. How would she feel? It’s the same with you. Tell her you take her as her best friend and you don't want to come between her relationship with her father but you don't want your privacy compromised too.
Hope all works out!
2007-03-27 02:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by LibraCrazyVirgo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to explain to your daughter, that it is none of his business and not to give him any information. If she is too young to understand and you can't get him to stop, then who cares what he knows, just goes to show you that he hasn't moved on and you have. you just go on and live your life and know that poor loser can't get over you, cuz he lost the best thing he ever had. then maybe it won't bother you so much that he is prying.
2007-03-27 01:28:27 · answer #5 · answered by ladybug 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Telling your daughter bad things about her dad will only make things worse. Little girls for some reason favor their dads... In time, she will realize her dad has issues. In the meantime, guide your daughter in the right direction without saying negative things about her dad. She will appreciate that.
2007-03-27 01:27:22 · answer #6 · answered by M. M 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention how old your daughter is...but my advice to you is, let her find out for herself, she will see for herself, in time, who he really is....don't feed her negative things about him, because she loves him and always will, and it will just confuse her, once she sees for herself the type of person he is, she herself will make a decision about him and their relationship. And as far as him drilling her for information about you, just tell her that she should tell him that its not appropriate of him to do so, and that he should call you himself, unless he is just asking how you are....not where, what and how you are doing in your personal life.
2007-03-27 01:28:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is tell him that!!! If your daughter is too young to know any better, than for her sake you have to grin and bear it!!!
And by the way...he can't be the biggest loser,,,my granddaughter's father is!!!!
2007-03-27 01:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go to family court and ask what you can do. I heard on Judge Judy that you don't need money to go and change current orders.
2007-03-27 02:30:13 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your daughter but you can never stop her from loving his dad even if she would realize that type of person that she is.
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2007-03-27 01:25:09 · answer #10 · answered by Leilyn 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋