After everything what now??

Question

I been with my bf for about 1yr and 7 months....but ever since he started hanging out with some friends from collage his been pushing me to the side, he finally told me after a long time that his friends dont like me, what so ever, we live together and for him, sleepying at night is quality time, I give up a lot for him, move to a different country for this guy, left all my friends behind, given him nothing but time, But I think its coming to an end.......which I guess you can say is one of my fears...I guess to be honest I'm just really writing this question for me...I'm not really looking for an answer I guess because I assume the best is just to move on, I'm just maybe looking for a shoulder to cry on or a ear I can rant to ....regardless if you guys just want to add something go ahead.....thanks

Answer 1

Dude...look at the bright side. It's his loss.

Answer 2

I think your bf needs a serious attitude adjustment slap. According to me, if my new friend's can't fit in with my bf they can take a hike. How is he having a relationship with? you or the inside of his eye lids. You can't expect a relationship to progress if the time spent together is time asleep.

I think you should sit him down and tell him how you feel. If he ignores your feelings then look at moving on but if you love him try work through this. I think that is the problem today. People are not willing to work through the hard parts of a relationship. It's easier to just move on. A relationship is not easy sailing. But the difficult times bring good times and in the end it is worth it. So if I were you, I would first give it a go, after all you did move to another country with this guy, he must really mean something to you.

Good luck and be strong.
In light and love
Nametse'
Oracle

Answer 3

Buck up Dicky. You don't want a pity party. Your better than that. Just learn from this experience and move on. It will make you a stronger person. By the sounds of it you have a brain and are not creepy. Move on and break it off. Just think of it as them not being able to hang out with you. Like its a privilege to hang out with such a great guy. You.

No more crying. No more pity party. Just delete this question and forget you ever asked it. Your better than that. Have some pride and self worth. That guy is loosing out. Not you.

Answer 4

I think you need to sit down with him and get his full attention, and then tell him everything you feel. The way he is treating you is selfish and unfair. Sleeping alongside each other is not quality time if it is all you do together! Not trying to help you get along with his friends is cruel. They seem to be more important to him than you are and that is wrong.

If your boyfriend does not respond well to you telling him how you feel and what you want to change, then I think you are going to have to make plans to leave him. You are worth better than this treatment. You sound like a lovely guy who has given up a lot to make this relationship work. You deserve more. Begin to distance yourself emotionally, make plans to support yourself financially and set a date to leave that suits you. Break-ups always hurt like hell at first, but you WILL BE OK. It's part of life. You need to look after you. Keep your pride and your dignity, hold your head up high and walk out of there. Leave him with his mean friends. He doesn't deserve you and one day he will realise what he has let go. All the best x

Answer 5

i cant give you an answer any better than the ones above me have...

but i will say that things always work out not always for the best straight away, but im gonna tell u what my mum told me when i came out to her:
"your life is going to be so hard relationship wise, but remember everything is for the best in the long run"

and it meant nothing to me when she said it then i had my first major break up sat for months in my room drinking all the memorys out of my head till one day i was dragged out by my mates and i met a fantastic girl, and if it hadnt been for all the bad stuff i would never off realised how great this girl was.

so just remember even the bad stuff works out for the best later in life.

Answer 6

Sometimes you just have to give him some space!! Let him know how you feel!! I know you weren't looking for an answer but my boyfriend done the exact same thing to me!! I let him hang out with his friends but i told him that he had to make time for me as well!! I told him that if he loved me he would want to spend time with me!! Yea, he might get upset because you feel that way... but in the long run you might see a little bit more of him!! If you guys are in love he wouldn't care what his friends thought about you... he would only care what he thinks about you!! My boyfriends friends don't like me that much at all, but they put up with me for him!! They understand that he loves me and wants to be with me!! Your boyfriends friends should do the same!!

Answer 7

I understand how you feel. But try asking him frankly how does he feel about you. If it's really the end, just move on with your life. I'm sure you'll find someone else who will love you sincerely & sacrifice for you . Don't give up.

I wish you the best of luck

Answer 8

I feel your pain... I guess there are no guarantees in relationships and we dive in with everything we have.. Some things I've learned in the past 8 years of relationship with my boif:don't give up on him too quickly... Fight for him, if he's worth it... Communicate openely and often... celebrate the good times and follow your heart.... Be well- :)

Answer 9

experience is the best teacher. take the experience you have gained through this relationship, pick up the pieces and move on. he wasn't the one for you, and your special someone is out there waiting for you!!!!!! Be Strong and Good Luck!

Answer 10

Talk to him and tell him exactly how you feel. It's wrong for him to push you away after all you have given up to be with him

Answer 11

Well, realizing it may help you make a decision as to what now? You sound like a good person who didn't deserve to be treated that way...Good luck to you...