I am pregant, an I need help.?

Question

I am 17 and I m 8 weeks pregant, and I have not told anyone. I don't want to go threw this alone, but that is what I am going to do because I don't know who the dad is and even if I did I can't tell them or anyone else because they were two guys I shouldn't have slept with. I want this baby and I don't want to abort it or give it away. I don't know how to explain it to people when I start to show. I have been looking things up and saving money. I am trying to make everything work out. I need some ADVICE. please

I am not in school and I live all over. I stay with one sister one night and my other sister the other night, there have been times I have stayed with my 'friend'. I can't tell them because of who the father would be, it would get him in ****. both of them. (I was drunk, leave me alone).

I don't have a planned parenthood place anywhere (That i know of) I am living in australia.

Answer 1

Get a DNA test to find out who the father is, that will make you feel alot better in knowing who it is, or... maybe it wont becuase you wernt supposed to sleep with them. Tell your parents, they may understand, and if your afraid to to that stop and think, their your parents their there for you either way so their going to help you. Go to the plan parent hood assc. (depending on where you live) or a program like that. talk to people about it and find the best solution. Good luck

Answer 2

Safely, you need to tell your parents or another trusted adult. I had a bad relationship with my parents so if you can't tell them I understand. A 15 year old down the street from me just had a baby 3 weeks ago. She didn't tell her Mom until 2 weeks before she had the baby. She didn't show at all but her Mom noticed that her feet were swollen. When her Mom saw this she knew right away that her daughter was pregnant. The swelling was a sign of a condition called toxemia. To make a long story short the baby and the young mother were in trouble at that point. You really need to seek some help. Do you have a planned parenthood around? You must let someone know you are pregnant. You need help with this. Your life will be changing drastically every day and the burden you will place on yourself by keeping this a secret is not safe for you or the baby darling girl! Lastly, don't worry who the Dad is right now. That is not of any importance at the moment. You can totally deal with that later.

Answer 3

You are going to need the help of your family, if at all possible. You can't hide this much longer and it's probably better if you parents have a little bit of time to adjust to the idea. Don't let anyone talk you into aborting your baby. Look into these resources they will help you! You will especially need prenatal care...that is the most important thing for your baby right now....for you to take care of yourself.

Do not go to a planned parenthood...they have an agenda, which is to make money through abortions.

Pregnancy Centers Online
www.pregnancycenters.org

www.lifecall.org

http://www.optionline.org/

http://cpcworld.org/

http://www.bethany.org/

http://www.adoptioncouncil.org/consider_PregnantConsider.htm



Telephone numbers:

Birthright: [phone]
Care Net: (800) 395-HELP
Catholic Charities: (800) CARE-002
Heartbeat International: [phone]
National Life Center: (800) 848-LOVE
Nurturing Network: (800) TNN-4MOM
Care Pregnancy Center Hot Line: 1-888-823-1121
Crisis Pregnancy Help Line : 1-800-672-229

Accidental Teen Pregnancy : 1-800-848-LOVE or 1-800-550-4900

Answer 4

Okay - I want you to think about what the baby needs. And whether or not you can provide properly for your infant. Believe it or not, contrary to what people say, babies need more than love. Look at your own life - how much did you have? Were you happy with what you had?
If you decide you are definitely going to keep your baby, you will need help and someone to lean on. You've chosen the hard path, and believe me, being a single parent isn't easy. (Been there, done that.)
Go and see the Citizen's Advice Bureau - they might be able to point you in the right direction regarding benefits and living accommodation. You will need to tell your parents - I'd do anything to avoid telling them about the two boys situation. You will need to discuss that with your doctor. My friend did this and they were very understanding.
Please tell your parents sooner rather than later. Yes, they will be angry and upset, but they will get over it.
Good luck honey. If you need help or support, email me.

You don't do things by half, do you now????? :)
Okay, I don't know what Australia is like but I wonder if there is something like a Catholic home for unmarried mothers?

Answer 5

I'm assuming you are still in school and still live at home.
You HAVE to graduate high school!!! Trust me, if you don't do it now - you never will! Secondly - you need to tell your parents. Third - tell the two guys that they might be a dad and when the baby is born, get a paternity test done. In the meantime, call the dr office and get an appointment to be seen. Early prenatal care is important, as well as taking your prenatal vitamins.
The Dr.'s office could also probably give you some names and numbers of some help agencies for pregnant teens.
Where I live we have a Planned Parenthood and also Heartline Pregnancy Centers - both are free to very low costs.
There are plenty of progams out there to help you.
I'm glad to hear you want to keep the baby - that's great! It will be hard, but you can do it.
Save all the $ you can now and get a good support system for you and the baby.
Good luck!

Answer 6

sounds like you have your hands full... Well if you dont want the father involved flat out dont tell them and tell everyone else you want to do it alone without the father because it would be for the best.. If you decide you want to know after the baby comes then get a DNA test with both of the men you think it could be.. Also, dont worry about being alone your family will always be there you may not think so now because i know i didnt think they would be i am 18 years old and 25 weeks pregnant.. They didnt find out until i was about three months pregnant i hid it as much as possible.. Actually alot of people are just now starting to find out by looking at me and im six months

Answer 7

I think that parents love their kids unconditionally, it doesn't matter what you have done they will always be there for you. Once the shock of what is happening is over they will come around, they may be disappointed as every parent wants more for their child but they will get over it eventually. They will be there for you. I think that you are doing the right thing by having the baby but I also think that once it is born the two guys have a right to know. Also tell your parents sooner rather than later. And on the off chance that your parents don't forgive you (don't worry, they will), there is always grandparents.

Answer 8

are you and your sister close it don't matter what they think they should be there to help you out i was in a situation like that but i was married and had a baby by another guy i did not tell any of my family but they knew about it before i told them when i did tell them they were there for me people make mistakes and you have to make mistakes to learn from them just be up front with them and tell them that you did something and you was not thinking at that time and as for as the guys if they or going to be like that you don't need them but i would get a DNA test just to be on the safe side just in cause later on in life something might happen to the baby then you will know who the dad is and if you need to know about his medical history just be strong God will see you Thru it and good luck with the baby

Answer 9

If you've decided not to involve the dad then, honestly, its no one's business who the father is and you need not make excuses. You don't mention your parents, but if they or someone else close to you demands to know, then just look them in they eye and say, "Trust me, we don't want this man in our lives." They don't need to know that there are 2 possible fathers. You've decided not to abort and I applaud your decision-it will be tough for you, but its tough for any parent. Don't let this situation make you ashamed and don't let it keep you from getting good prenatal care. You can do it! You've made this decision, now be proud...hold your chin up and show people that you won't be pushed around! Tell the people close to you right away and in a matter-of-fact way. Make them give you the support you deserve. Look in your phone book and see if you can find the number to a crisis pregnancy center and give them a call. They will not push you to abort or adopt and they can give you practical advice.

Answer 10

My friend did the same thing, she got pregnant at 17 with someone much, much older. She decided she wanted to keep the baby, she said she's not having the baby for him she's having the baby for herself. At the time I was couple years older and as her closest friend I told her It was not a good idea to go through with it. She certainly did not listen to me, now she calls and tell me how the man don't treat her right at all. She admit now that she's not a good mother and she feels really bad. So it's up to you to do whatever you want to do, just ask yourself why are you doing this then take it from there. That's one of the reasons why I'm happy that I'm married because I have no chance of experiencing these things. That's why I always encourage woman to be married and stay faithful before they get pregnant because you are in a very tight position. Do what's best for yourself.

Answer 11

you are 17 teen It is going to be so hard to have a baby, You need support You need your family it may hurt them in the beginning they will come around I promise. You can save money but it will never be enough. babies are alot of work they need round the clock care. and you need support . If you would like to talk E-mail Me [e-mail] I am a mother of two 6 and 13 and My husband and I had Our first child when I was 23 and I was NOT ready and It upset my parents but they came around. so if you need to talk E-mail me. Good Luck Remember that your there daughter and they Love you...