there is life after divorce? Can I be happy after being married for soo long to someone that never gave me much and took all I gave? Will I be happy?
2007-03-27 01:04:59 · 30 answers · asked by memyslf&I 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes there is life after divorce. start going out with friends on weekends. or go out of town for weekends. you will find someone else who will love you for who you are. God has a plan for you but you need to find out what it is. i was married 20 yrs then got divorce not what i wanted but i couldn't live with a man who cheated. so i took vacations by myself. i went on casual dates, heck i figured if nothing else i got a free dinner out of it. so you will be fine it just take time. :)
2007-03-30 19:37:32 · answer #1 · answered by kameo_44 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is what you make it. If you approach it from the standpoint that your life is over after a divorce (or at any other time), it will be. Be happy that you are finally rid of the rubbish you were married to. Be confident that you deserve better and take care of yourself. See your divorce as an opportunity for you to find happiness.
2007-03-27 08:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by Lindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...here is reality.
YOU will be so happy you won't know why you put up with the misery so long.
When you have an ex that ignored you and made you feel like a nobody, you may think that others think the same of you. But that isn't true. Now is the time that you are going to blossom into what you were meant to be.
Explore everything that you never got around to doing. Join clubs, meet people, just play. Be young and explore. Create a new home for yourself...
It is scary. It is new...but you will be so happy once you find yourself.
Being single is scary too. But don't worry,...you had someone else to please for a long time...now please yourself.
Congratulations for taking the first step to a very happy rest of your life!!!!!!!!
2007-03-27 08:10:04 · answer #3 · answered by kishoti 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is certain, just as no one could assure you that your marriage would work out. I think it is a far better chance that you will be able to put your life back together after being the giver for so long. You must learn right now though do NOT let your happiness depend upon others, if you expect your happiness to depend on others and the way they treat you, then you will NEVER find true happiness.
2007-03-27 08:12:50 · answer #4 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was never married but i think that you can be happy as long as you wait until you are absolutely ready to be in a relationship and not rushing into things so that when you do get involved with someone you can give him your all and he can do the same. Cause i was with this girl once that just got out of a long term relationship and she blamed and accused me for doing every thing wrong that he did to her, so just make sure that you are ready so you wont do the same
2007-03-27 08:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by Kyree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is life after divorce. Trust me I found out. I was married to my ex for 7 years, who took and took before I finally found the courage to tell him I was unhappy. It was very hard but once I did it I found my confidence again. You'll only be happy if you want to be.
2007-04-02 17:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by coffeegirl019 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way you can be sure that there is life after divorce is to look around you - about half the marriages in the U.S. end up in divorce court! People still go on living and remarry. They have fun on the way to the second marriage too.
2007-04-02 00:38:11 · answer #7 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant be sure unless you know you have to make the 1st step out. It is your life that you want to lead. No matter how sad or happy you are, you still have to continue your life and move on. Yes, I admit.. when you just divorce, you will be sad and it takes time to heal the wound slowly.. I rather live the rest of my life happily than to be sad for the rest of my life. It all depend on you. the life you want to be : Happy or Sad??
2007-04-03 12:36:33 · answer #8 · answered by TO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There IS life after divorce. I've seen this happen SO many times. It may not feel like it now, but I assure you, you will be OK and one day look back and be glad you are away from this man. It doesn't sound from your post that you were very happy with your husband.
Keep strong, you WILL be ok.
2007-03-27 08:10:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you will.
As Marissa Tomei said in 'My Cousin Vinny',
"You'll do fine.
If you don't f*ck it up!"
Just don't pick a loser this time. What I mean is, okay he was a jerk. But whatever criteria or system you used to select him was flawed as well. Change - not make more bitter and b*tchy and acidic, just change and make a bit more logical and less emotional - how you select men and "fall in love", because what you did last time didn't work. Yes he was a jackass but you kept letting him screw you all those years, right?
Okay now get out there and have a good time.
2007-03-27 08:31:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋