would you want to know all the details or just forget about it and forgive them
2007-03-27 00:54:54 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm the type of person that needs to know all the ugly details. I need to know EXACTLY what I'm forgiving.
2007-03-27 01:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by Pom♥Mom Spay and Neuter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depend on a person that's been hurt, how long they been married and what was the coast of it. I would want some details why he did what he did, and what did she have that I don't have. Forgiving is very easy but to forget what happen will always stay in you. But can we forgive our spouse if he or she fell for this person?? I don't know about others but I can't. Love is sacred and you just can't give it to someone that easy....
2007-03-27 08:45:20 · answer #2 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I need to know is that the cheating happened. Details will stick with you forever. If you plan on forgiving him, then details should be excluded. If his cheating is the end, then why would you want to know? I had the joy of knowing all the details, including the persons name, and I still want to kill her and I've been divorced now because of her for 11 years. Trust me, details are the last thing you need to be thinking about.
2007-03-28 07:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Initially, I would want to know all the details, especially if I thought it would help me to understand "why". I would rather have the facts than imagine what, how, when, etc.
Either way, I would never "forget" about it. If I were to choose to stay in the relationship, I would have to be able to accept what happened, trust that it is in the past (not to resurface), and then forgive...not for my spouse's sake, but for mine.
2007-03-27 08:05:53 · answer #4 · answered by Lindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In between. I do not want all the details, but I do want some details. I want to know with who, how long it's been going on and how they feel about this person. Then we shall see if trust can be earned back but it would depend upon a lot of things, a lot of them.
2007-03-27 08:14:44 · answer #5 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to know the deatails. I always say if he cheats then thats the end but I'm not sure that I would be able to throw away a 7 yr relationship over one night of sex. So I guess it would depend on what kind of cheating. An affair= out on the street a one night stand = I might want to try to work it out
2007-03-27 08:47:58 · answer #6 · answered by DEBBY'S BABY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i found out my wife cheated, i just wanted to know with who so i could stay away from them. i didn't want any details because that would just hurt more. if u are able to forgive , then u don't need to know all the gory details.
2007-03-27 08:35:12 · answer #7 · answered by bgrgdrvr33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get the details of why it happened.. when you know the reasons it happened you know what is missing in the relationship and what you need to work on to fix and make it better and stronger. Then you can really put it behind your back and move forward. Best of Luck
2007-03-27 13:05:26 · answer #8 · answered by Samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want details but not so sure I could forgive either.
2007-03-27 09:13:14 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want to know the details of the act or where they're going when you kick them out.
2007-03-27 09:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋