Because I think my boyfriend is lying. Not cheating thankfully, but behaving in a way that contradicts what he says. I can't really give you specifics because should he ever land on this question and recognise my username he'd go nuts.
He doesn't want to share any of his life with me (like letting me meet his family!), and seems to make up quite drastic stories as to why. Is it really worth it?
We've been together over a year and he is in his late twenties.
2007-03-27 00:37:57 · 12 answers · asked by tigerfly 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Good point Minxy! Yes, they do know about me because I've spoken to his Dad on the phone.
2007-03-27 00:47:40 · update #1
Maybe there is a problem with his parents.
I know that my fiance (we've been together for 4 years now) did not want me to meet his parents at first telling me that they would make our relationship difficult. I actually did not believe him thinking that nothing they could do or say would change anything. I then insisted on meeting them and realised that he was actually right. Although nothing has changed between us and we are more than ever in love, I discovered that it is possible to be hated by your in laws... Maybe we should have waited... I don't know. But if your boyfriend thinks that the time is not right, I suggest you wait.
2007-03-27 00:48:14 · answer #1 · answered by Behind Blue Eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sympathise with you because I had the same worries with my ex. I knew in my heart he was lying about certain things but I could not be sure and when questioned he gave convincing answers. Its very hard because I am sure that you love him and perhaps he is just a very closed person. I cant give you an answer, only time will tell, there will come a point where you will have had enough and only you can be the judge of when that time will be.
2007-03-27 18:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by sassymoomin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be lying... or he could be wary of doing the whole family introduction thing due to a previous relationship??
It sounds like he could be waiting until hes certain that you're in it for the longhaul.... maybe he was left embarrassed by an ex soon after he had introduced her to his family?
Maybe he has a past that he would prefer not to let you in on - possibly an unhappy childhood or an abusive family member?
If you think that hes just covering up stuff from his past then I wouldnt push the matter - but maybe make it clear that theres nothing he couldnt tell you..
xx
2007-03-27 08:09:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u either find out y he is lying n y he ain't lettin u meet his family or leave him, he seems very suspicious and afta a yr 2getha u shudda at least met his mum or summit. He cud be embarrassed ov u ( not being rude x). He may just have really awkward parents that are best to stay away from, but then, he cud have another gal and she mite be the one his family no. Sorry really not helping u am I.
2007-03-27 07:48:13 · answer #4 · answered by wildteddybear07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your instincts. I've found that they're never usually wrong.
You could dump him, or you could try to get him to explain himself. You need to tell him that you think he's not being sincere with you (a nice way of saying you'r lying) about something in his life. See where is leads and go from there.
Good luck!
2007-03-27 07:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately you would get worried,relationship is about honesty sharing and loving. Are you open to him yourself and a year is along time,has he just started those behaviours.If it has just started then he is changing his mind about you wants to c someone else.But try to be bold and ask him forexample why he doesnt want to take you to his parents.If he doesnt seem to care move on with your life. Agood friend is someone who knows were you are coming from.
2007-03-27 09:15:33 · answer #6 · answered by Musumba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be worried if you have been with him for a year.
He is not a kid - so he needs to grow up, show maturity
and let him meet your family. He is an extension of them.
Do they know about you? If not - Why?
You are right to be suspicious. Follow your female
instincts.
2007-03-27 07:43:56 · answer #7 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm he is acting rather strange; I suppose the best thing you can do is confront him with the information that you've told us. Explain that it upsets you that he seems to make excuses why you cant meet his family and you want to know why. Do what feels right :]
2007-03-27 09:03:46 · answer #8 · answered by Black Magic; 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont thinkhe is worth it, is he ashamed of you thats why he dont want ya t meet his family, sound to me he is hiding something unless he would open up to ya, really adont think he is worth it. good luck xx
2007-03-27 09:06:17 · answer #9 · answered by Hayli P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope not worth it.
2007-03-27 07:47:34 · answer #10 · answered by space case 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋