HOW can i convince my boyfrinend to have a versectomy reversal?

Question

he has 2 kids and is 43 and i have none and am 25 i really want a baby how do i convince him..... i love him so much but i want a baby

his kids are only 10 and 12

Answer 1

talk to him. tell him about all the good things that will happen if you do have one. also listen to why he does not want a baby and go from there. you need both sides of the story if you are going to convince him!! good luck!!! i hope you have a baby :P

Answer 2

You need to figure out why you want to have a baby with him and why you want to have a baby with a man that took the time and effort to have a vesectomy. A lot of men dont do that.

Your 25 and being a mom would be good, think about him at 43 and raising a baby with you.? Or at 50 or 50 with a 10 year old.

My father was 42 when I was born and was forever an old man.

Answer 3

To me, whether or not someone wants children is a maker or breaker in a relationship. After the age of 22 you shouldn't get involved with someone who doesn't have the same goals as yourself. Whether or not to have children is a big deal that you should have discussed with him prior to getting into a serious relationship with him. He has a vasectomy and is 43, just by that I can tell he is done. If children are important to you then I think you should end the relationship. You are 25 now. What if he tells you to wait a couple of more years while he thinks about it? He could be almost 50 and you into your thirties. Do you want that? Break up with him and find yourself a guy more around your age and has the same wants as you. You can't make someone have a child with you.

Answer 4

Hun you can try BUT,................. HE is 43...... I would bet he doesnt want more children. He would be at least 44 - 45 when the baby is born, and he would be 65 before the child is finished with college.

If you really love him, you already have 2 children HIS. If you really want a baby you might have some hard choices to make such as finding another man.

If he wanted more he would not have been fixed after 2.

Answer 5

He took a major step in deciding his fertility future. Chances are, he didn't get the vasectomy on a whim. He probably does not want any more children.

Sit down, have a long talk with him, and whatever happens, respect his opinion. Even if he says something you don't like. If you two can't be on the same page about this, then perhaps you need to move on and find someone that shares your life goals.

Answer 6

I have the same problem, my husband is 51 and I am 27, in my case, he haven't done the vasectomy, but he doesn't want to have kids,, but I talk to him about it,because I will really like to have kids of my own.I ask him what if it happens I get pregnant,and he said we will keep it,so now I am looking forward of having one.

Age don't really matter in relationship and having children ,a lot of older couples age from 55 are having IVF to have kids and their children don't see them as old.what matter is the love and caring u show to Ur kids. no matter what age u are..

Talk to Ur boyfriend,tell him how much u love him and u will love to have at least one child with him,if u know the relationship is worth it...
best of luck

Answer 7

I am in a similar situation except I'm a bit older than you. I'm 36 and he's 42 and has 2 almost grown children and doesn't want to start over. He's not fixed and says "If we get pregnant then we'll keep it" but he's not "trying" to help me get pregnant.

Good luck to you......

Answer 8

It should not matter how old his kids are and your age difference is a lot. My suggestion is find someone who is younger because usually men in that age bracket don't want any more kids.

Answer 9

sit down and talk