when do u think its ideal to have second baby,?

Question

how old should first born be

Answer 1

Totally depends on when you & your partner are financially and emotionally ready to have another child.

Answer 2

My daughter is 4 and a half months old, and my husband and I have just starting trying for our second baby. We want no more than 18 months apart between our children so that they grow up together. My sister and I are 2 years apart and we fight like cat and dog, and we always have! We dont even talk anymore, she has her life and I have mine. I dont want my children to be the same! It is different for everyone though! If all goes to plan (which it did last time we wanted to get pregnant) I will fall pregnant in a couple of weeks, and my daughter will be about 14 months old when our second is born!

Answer 3

I dont think there is any ideal time to have another baby. You always have to worry about how your other child will feel. It doesn't matter when you have it just make sure you involve your older child as much as possible. My first child will be 4 when my baby is born so she has had a lot of time being the only child but it doesn't have to be difficult introducing a new mamber of the family, she cant wait to help look after her new baby brother or sister, It makes her feel so grown up.

Answer 4

I think it really depends on when the parents are ready to have a second child. I have a 12 month old and I just really couldn't have another yet. I do want a second child but I would like my son to be at least three before I start to even think about it. Some women prefer to have a smaller gap between the two, some one I know has two children with 11 months between them!

Answer 5

Hi, I do believe that you should do it whenever you are ready. My brother and I are 10 months apart, and things were OK and yea, we are close, but we were in the same grade and always thought of as twins...
My daughter is 4 months old (today actually) and we decided that we would start trying when she was about two. but there are stipulations, like we don't want one before we own a house, if we are going to plan on moving soon. We made a general decision about our next child. Just don't put it off till the "time is right" because that almost never happens.

Best of Luck!

Answer 6

well i have a 7 year gap between my 1st and 2nd mainly coz i was 14 when 1st was born between 2nd and 3rd there is 19 months and 3rd and 4th there is 2 1/2 years and the youngest three do get along better then the oldest 2 coz the youngest 3 have all grown up together,
it can be hard work having more then 2 children under 4 but it is worth every moment as they grow in to young adults as mine are now.

Answer 7

Depends on when you feel emotionally and financially ready. I waited two years between my girls and I felt like I didn't have so much time for my eldest in her first years at pre school etc so i wish i had waited a few years more.
I'm planning my third next year which I'm looking forward to as my girls are now aged 11 and 7 and are at an age where they want to help out and have their own independence too.

In the end it's up to the individual, my friend has three kids each a year apart and she thrives on running around and being on the go...

Answer 8

it really just depends when you think it's ideal for you. everyone has a different opinion on this. my first and my second are 3 years and 2 months apart. i am pregnant again and due to have him anytime so my second and third will only be 20 months apart. i think no matter the age gap there is always going to be some kind of challenge you are going to have to face when it comes to having multiple good luck.

Answer 9

After the first one. Sorry seriously we tried to get 2 years in between and managed it give or take a couple of weeks. I am also 1 of 3 with a 2 year gap between all of us. However with childbirth being basically a complete lottery I would take any gap between brith as long as the baby is healthly. If you are trying all the best

Answer 10

My personal preference (when I do eventually have children) will be to have them about 4 or 5 years apart. I know taking care of 2 babies at once would take its toll on me personally but I wouldn't want my kids to be too far apart in age. My sister and I are 8 years apart and all we ever did was fight. After she moved out, we never spoke. Today, we're still distant but we're a little better though I wish we could have been closer in age since I firmly believe that's what prevented us from being close early on. It was like we were both only children. It was pretty lonely.

But that's just my personal preference.

Answer 11

Children that are born close together do better in school because the development of the older child helps the second one. However, this was so with my sister and I, and my sister grew up much quicker than I did because of this, leaving me feeling a little out of it when my sister was granted the same requests that I was, but she was 3 years younger.