I've just started a new job and am receiving unwanted attentiont from my boss.
He is about 20 years older than me but keeps making remarks about me and the way I look,
ie "Oh your hair looks lovely today".
I've only been working at the job for 2 weeks and I don't like it.
Last Friday he asked me out for a drink.
I told him I am happilly married and don't want to get involved.
Should I contact the union about him or politely tell him to stop it or I will leave.
Your suggestions would be welcome
thanks.
2007-03-27 00:12:20 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i would tell him to stop and if he doesn't.........report him
2007-03-27 00:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by ladybug 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Strange thing is you've already found the solution for yourself...i.e. First do it the right way legally and morally ... politely ask him (written) if you like to stop making such advances, as they are sending out the wrong signal. If he's a decent man he would either...stop doing it or clear any misunderstandings/ miscommunication you and he may have had.
If he still persists...the law will be your final answer.
Things may back fire if you run to the union directly w/o giving your boss any prior warnings, caz chances are he may turn around and say that you've never brought it to his attention, (although you may have mentioned it to him a hundred times before) but then a man can lie to save his a*s, if you know what I mean.
Be safe and all the best.
P.S. - if you've got a good husband, don't forget to take him into confidence regarding this matter
2007-03-27 00:28:17 · answer #2 · answered by AngelDee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter, stating what you have stated here, that his flirty attention and his personal remarks are unwanted and that they are to stop immediately. Make sure you state some examples of his inappropriate behaviour in your letter and when they occurred. Keep a copy of the letter. If there is any more silliness after you have told him to stop in writing, send copies of the letter to everyone up the chain above your boss, the Human Resources Department, your union rep, etc. etc.
2007-03-27 00:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like sexual harassment to me, that stated are not getting in contact with him, the place of work gossips will or are having a field day with this. also, regrettably, many cases in this manner of situation the boss never finally ends up searching for yet another pastime besides the indisputable fact that the objective of his affection does. Have a delightful chat with him and tell him good to back off.
2016-12-02 21:32:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has not asked you out again, and his most innapropriate comment is "your hair looks nice today" there's nothing you can do. I hope he leaves you alone but if he pushes you further contact the union. For now tell him politely to stop.
2007-03-27 00:53:46 · answer #5 · answered by Lucy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact the union you work for.They wold be your support in keeping your job safe after you bring it up, but talk yto your union...
2007-03-27 00:36:06 · answer #6 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take a small recorder in my pocket while on talk to him about stopping it . be tackeful about it if he is a good boss he will work on dueing better, if he fires you for it sue the crap out of him, Also talk to you husband about it, get his advice.
2007-03-27 00:22:50 · answer #7 · answered by Larry M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you take ANY action, you NEED to document everything. Note the date, time & what was said. Documentation is your friend.
2007-03-27 00:51:36 · answer #8 · answered by Larry F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell HIM. That's the problem with working with women, they always cause problems by involving other people. Just handle it. You wanted to put on pants and act like a man so, act like one and take care of your own business.
2007-03-27 00:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would comment but I am distracted by your beautiful hair in the picture. seriously, I would contact union and document it, in case it escalates.
2007-03-27 00:19:24 · answer #10 · answered by MST3K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nicely tell him you enjoy working there but you are feeling uncomfortable with his comments and asking you for a drink. Ask him to please stop and if he persists then go to HR or his boss...good luck
2007-03-27 00:21:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋