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Alcohol is a relaxant for a miute, like a bandade to get people over the initial nervous tension. But like a bandade gets dirty, so does alcohol. At the least it is a depressant once the 'relaxed feelings wear off' it affects the central nervous system, making you feel worse than you did to begin with. Like satan it is a thief and a liar and wants to destroy you.
So drop the bottle and don't pick up again. No use going to A.A if they can't face people. Their are some good Cognetive Behavioral programs running in mental health units. But the person has to muster up the courage to get out and participate. Remember Baby - Steps!
Last but not least, there are some good self help books & the computer would have alot of info on it for Social Phobia.
Life needs to be lived and thats no way to live it. Ask yourself is this how I want to spend the rest of my days?
Lifeis worth the living. Remember Baby - Steps!
I truely mean - all the best!

2007-03-27 03:06:25 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0 1

no what for? if you really want to be relaxed around people, accept who you are first then ease into it. Go to events with a close friend and just don't worry about what other people think. age has nothing to do with it. Can't teach a dog new tricks doesn't pertain.
booze is a depressant that makes most people feel depressed when consuming it or when coming down from it at least, what a bummer! Who needs the aggravation? You don't! So stay away from bars, go to Zoos, or the beach, or a movie. Most Alcoholics are social drinkers, so take away the bars/parties and they(you) get back to normal quickly

2007-03-27 07:06:35 · answer #2 · answered by mark [mjimih] 3 · 1 1

Do not give up! Because to say "it won't get any better" is not the truth at all. It can, and it will with the appropriate steps and help.
Help is an important word and none of us get through life without it. So it isn't a failure to need help.
First deal with the alcohol to the extent it rules ones life is the extent it ruins ones life. Then or rather alongside of the help with the alcohol, seek a qualified professional counselor and follow through on their advice.

I will be hoping for the best outcome for you!

2007-03-27 07:26:43 · answer #3 · answered by thankyou "iana" 6 · 1 0

Is that how you want to live the rest of your Life? Only you can change you, and you have to want to change. You have taken the first step and admitted you are powerless over Alcohol, now do something about it. There are AA meetings everywhere and others just like yourself whom can help you and give you Moral support. You can beat it, but you have to try Hard and stay with the program.

2007-03-27 16:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 1 0

You need to deal with the alcohol. There are many groups around that can help you, so start off there. As you get more confident with dealing with this I am sure you will find your social phobia starts to fade...

2007-03-27 06:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 1 0

Well, I'm 50, and I cannot function around strangers, or in a group of friends if even one stranger is present. I'm cannot act relaxed and normal around a stranger. It takes me a couple of years to get comfy enough around most people to speak. And sometimes, based on their behavior, I never do get comfortable... I am always nervous and stilted around them. For me, it has to do with how people act toward me. If I can tell they are eyeing me, or judging me, I am incapacitated. I am just a mess and can't speak or perform whatever I need to effectively if they betray that they think I can't do it.

I have never sought help. I have needed it since adolescence.

2007-03-27 07:02:23 · answer #6 · answered by Winston Smith 3 · 1 0

No, I take my grandfather out for breakfast nearly every morning after I drop my son off at school. You should get out and enjoy life. I hope you have someone to take you, if not, I will, as long as you live in my area :-)

2007-03-27 07:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 0 0

Never give up. Never, The breakthrough may be in just a word said at the right time.

2007-03-27 07:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

You have to decide that. If you want to change, change. If not, stay the status quo. but the worst thing you can do is sit on the fence and torture yourself about it.
Get busy livin or get busy dying.

2007-03-27 07:00:33 · answer #9 · answered by guy o 5 · 2 0

You shouldn't give up - you just need to drop the alcohol and increase your self esteem.

2007-03-27 08:51:45 · answer #10 · answered by Sofia 4 · 0 1

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