& she is talking about moving with my kids down london way at the moment we live in manchester is there any thing i can do to stop this from happening as i love seeing my kids as much as i can
2007-03-26 23:52:03 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Call a lawyer.
2007-03-26 23:54:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you end it because of something you did??? If so she may just be threatening to move away as you hurt her and she knows how much you love your kids,so she thought il say that to hurt him!
It may take her time to get over what happened. If she is a good mum she will speak to your kids first. If they are settled with friends etc.... there is no way she will move them. Take it from another woman (in south london)
Children should never get used as weapons when a marriage breaks down!!!
Good luck, you will be fine,Give her time to calm down.
2007-03-27 00:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you cant stop the evolution of splitting up and that mean that some people need to move away from each other.
Don't forget there is the phone, email (depending on age) weekends (distance can be a problem)
If this has just happened and you and your wife don't get on AT ALL, sorry to say this is not going to get better.
Good luck (and try and convince her to be reasonable even if it is only for the kids sake)
2007-03-26 23:59:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard one this but you can't really stop her. You will just have to go the extra mile to keep the relationship you have with your children. You don't say if this was an amicable split or not if so she might be reasonable about keeping in touch, visiting, etc. Whatever you do - don't start nitpicking because it will only affect the kids.
2007-03-27 01:11:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's stopping you from going for custody of the children? Remember there is no law that says you as a father cannot have custody. Go for it - you cannot stop her from moving she is an adult with a mind of her own, but you can make a stand as to what you want and what is best for your kids. there is nothing to say that men cannot take care of their children. So make a few adjustments but make the right choice for you and what is best for your kids.
2007-03-28 01:21:22 · answer #5 · answered by kk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agree with D D - Try and keep things amicable at
the moment for your kids sake.
Try not to argue in front of them.
Seek legal advice.
I'm sure you have told the children how much you
and their mom love them. When my brother parted
from his wife. He sat with both of them and told them
he would always be there for them and made sure
that they had his phone number to ring him anytime
they wanted to. It's heartbreaking. But kids are very
resilient.
I hope thing work out for you. Good Luck!!
2007-03-27 00:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn`t read this question without getting annoyed what I want to say about the system is violation worthy. I had to go to court just to get access rights seems the laws need to change as at the moment women have to much say in bringing up children and its very unfair.
2007-03-27 00:05:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her calmly how unhappy that would make you and the kids if they weren't nearby. If she thinks the kids might be affected, she may think twice (but only if she's rational!). If that fails, you may need to get some legal advice - try the Citizens Advice Bureau. Hope everything works out for you.....
2007-03-26 23:57:19 · answer #8 · answered by LBUK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When your wife moves to London the last thing you want to is children getting in your way as you plough through the local student population
2007-03-27 00:00:41 · answer #9 · answered by Barry Von Leotard III 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think of the future of your kids.. Any split has methods of remending it for a better tie. The best is through dialogue. Perhaps the kids can also help.
2007-03-27 00:00:04 · answer #10 · answered by Sabeer K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll have to sit her down and tell her that you want access on weekend- whatever.
as a father you will have to make the effort to see your kids and if that is what she wants to do, she can do it.
you'll have to arrange that maybe you can stop over weekends or something and that was you can see kids.
if she isnt willing to co- operate with you, take her to court and fight for custody.
whatever happens she has the right to move down there and you cant stop her. and it is your right to make the effort to visit them.
2007-03-29 20:44:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋