i know how disappointing it can be when ttc. it has taken my husband and i 6 months so you're not alone. keep positive, it will happen one day. sadly no one can tell you when, just look after yourself, enjoy everyday and things will move along. i do believe you can try too hard, why not plan a break away during ovulation? that way you'll be busy enjoying yourself and it might just happen. if its really getting you low then speak to your GP. A healthy couple can take up to a year to conceive so dont worry that theres something wrong. good luck Hun, thinking of you xxxx
2007-03-26 23:07:36
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answered by louise 5
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It is natural to feel so down because simply all around you, you keep seeing people with the thing you want most but dont have yet......a child. Unfortunately some women take longer to conceive for no particular reason, but It can be very hard waiting for it to happen when each month is repetatively, trying & hoping and then being bitterly disappointed when your period arrives.
Try to relax and start charting your body changes and temp (if you arent already doing so) it will give you something positive to aim for and work at throughout each month. By tracking your body changes & working out precisely when you ovulate can make a great difference at the the chance of falling pregnant. Look on the site www.pregnancylounge.com it has lots of good advice as well as www.babycentre.com.
Also try to be positive and if you do get the disappointment of your period arriving try to think already towards the next month of trying and not being unlucky that month.
If you carry on having no luck conceiving, go to your doctor who can help and give excellent advice and check everything is working as it should for you both!
I wish you all the best x
2007-03-27 07:45:24
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answered by Anonymous
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I feel for you sister. It depends on your age, if you are under 35 I would wait until you have been TTC for one year and then you should go see a fertility specialist. Have you tried charting or doing OPKs? It is normal at the end of a cycle and the beginning of a new one to feel a bit down. And please dont believe that stress has anything to do with why you are not conceiving. You can ask your gyn and he/she should tell you that EXTREME stress can mess up your cycle but if you are having regular periods then stress will not keep you from getting pregnant. This is a common misconception among people who have not dealt with infertility. (Not saying that you are infertile) It has only been 7 months, give yourself a few more months and then contact your doc. Not sure about your faith but there is a great Christian website that I belong to called Hannah's Prayer: www.hannahsprayer.org there are some great ladies on there who can help. Good luck!
2007-03-27 07:28:43
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answered by eeyore9939 2
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It really is normal to feel this way, and though I'm sure you feel very happy for your pregnant friend, of course you feel jealous. Seven months isn't all that long to be trying, although I know it feels like it. I used to work in a fertility clinic where people had often been trying for years without success, so I've met many people in the same situation as you. There's no medical explanation for this, but all the doctors agreed that it was quite common for infertile couples to try and try without success, go away and give up and suddenly spontaneously become pregnant with no intervention once they stopped obsessing about it. Try taking a holiday with your partner and stop taking any ovulation predictors or anything like that, agree not to actively "try" for a while and make love rather than try to make babies. Give yourself a break and see what happens.
2007-03-27 06:08:18
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answered by f0xymoron 6
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Please don't give up on something so beautiful. I know 7 months seems like forever but maybe it's just not your time yet. It is not strange for a women to take 3-12 months to conceive but over a year is, so don't think that you can't get pregnant. Have you ever noticed that the women who gets pregnant easily are the ones who don't want to? They are the one who get knocked up. I suggest you find some way to not think about it too much so there won't be any stress on you to lower your chances of conceiving. Take care.
2007-03-27 06:54:45
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answered by jamrock 3
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Well I had been trying for three years before I conceived my baby. I had lost total hope that I'll ever be pregnant and every month I would think that I'll not care what happens next month. but every month I would get excited again for every single thought of pregnancy. I would always relate my 2ww with the symptoms and wait for a good news. i spend lots of money on treatments and home pregnancy tests. I knew I had PCOS and that made it even harder because I felt that I would never concieve. But there was slight hope. Then one month after all the treatments failed my doctor told me to go for IVF. I just wasn't ready for it then since it was too expensive and I had other reasons for it to not be comfortable. I just told my hubby that we would not do it so soon. So we went on a rest cycle without any meds. It was that cycle I concieved. Everytime friends would tell me to take it easy and it would happen and I would get really angry at them and I felt they'll never understand what I go through because they got pregnant at their frist tries. Everytime I had a fight wiht my mom who would just comment things like hey its good you don't have kids because having a kid is so much burden. I would get furious on her. Well it happened for me and I say if it can happen to me it can happen to everyone. I'm not trying to say that you should stop thinking about it because you won't even if you try but I want to let you know that I've been through all this and I feel for you. I pray that you get pregnant soon because a baby is the best thing that can happen to anyone. I'm sure you'll cherish every minute once you get pregnant and I hope that comes soon.
2007-03-27 06:30:09
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answered by Shanu 3
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I know exactly how you feel, me and my partner have been trying for a baby for around the same time as you. I have PCOs which i have been told can make it more difficult for me to conceive. Its really hard to stay positive i know but i just focus on how much i want a little one and pray that one day we will be successful. My sister in law got preg and they werent even trying and she doesnt really want the baby and sometimes i think ungrateful cow, but then remember not everyone wants the same things. It seems like everyone i know is pregnant, 4 of my friends from school are now expecting and i sometimes think it will never happen for me, but the main thing is to keep positive.
If you want to chat please feel free to email me, i know exactly what ur going through.
2007-03-27 06:14:11
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answered by vickyvixen84 3
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the only answer i can give is keep hope and trust in god and yourself.. try to be happy and forget the tension.. be happy that you dont have but someone else has it..pray for them..dont thnk that i am trying to give u a lecture of suggestion, i know how it is as even i didnt have a baby for 5 years.. b4 i use to get depress and sometimes mad.. but than i started trying to be happy by seeing others pregnant & prayed for them, I didnt loose hope as i feel nothing is impossible and guess what now i have a beautiful baby girl.. so when i can after 5 years why cant you.. pray and keep hope .. you will have a healthy baby soon...
2007-03-27 06:15:06
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answered by Richa 6
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Look it took me a YEAR to be pregnant. Sometimes, it's just patience (and sex 3x a week, no standing after sex, good charting of your ovulation, eating fruits, sure that your husband's sperm counts' ok, and a happy attitude).
Stop feeling so down dear. You will carry one eventually. Meanwhile focus your thoughts on other things.
2007-03-27 06:09:40
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answered by trisha_alexandria 3
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You are so down because you are concentrating on failure.
Concentrate on the good things in life and the things you do well.
Not proven, but you are stressing yourself and that can be one reason it is difficult to conceive.
2007-03-27 06:05:42
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answered by margaret w 6
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