My friend is acting weird..i need some advice.?

Question

Ahem here goes.
My friend Lesley (girl) has been acting very different and strange ever since she's been dating her boyfriend kai.
They started going out and everything was innocent, then all of a sudden they're having sex, doing the whole lot.
Okay the weird part it, they've only been together for a few months and they're already planning to get married and have children..they're 16 YEARS OLD.
One day she was like "i dont want kids" then the next "oh i want a child with kai.."
They're both obsessed with each other and these plans on getting married and having children are scary.
She says that next time they have sex she wants to do it un-protected do she might get pregnant.
What is wrong with them!????

Tell, we're all really scared for her. She's only 16 years old.

Thanks.

Answer 1

When your crazy in love and young you usually think that the person you are with is the "one" thinking and even talking about her wanting to marry him and have kids i think is normal, but the acting on it scares me as well. You should really talk to her, have her think about the pros and cons of settling down this young. I think the cons outweigh the pros in her situation.
-struggling financially
-the responsibility of a baby meaning no time for yourself, no more hanging out all the time,
-not dating anyone else in the future.

it may seem like she cant live without him or she couldnt see herself without him but love puts blinders on you, especially if your just experiencing it. A baby changes everything, they wont be able to spend all that quality time together if there is a baby to take care of.

I would also suggest getting some other friends to talk to her, maybe even an adult. And try to get her on some form of birth control

Answer 2

It is temporary insanity, hopefully she will soon come back to her sences and realize that neither she or her boyfriend is in any way prepared to care for a baby.
Ask her to do the "egg baby" experiment for 1 week. Tell her to take an uncooked egg and care for it as if it were a baby for 7 days.
Tell her to shop for clothes, diapers, food and other baby accessories so she can find out how much it costs, then ask her where she is going to get the money.
Tell her to find someone to babysit for her during the time she is in school, ask her how will she pay for that.
Tell her to sleep only 4 hours a night for 7 days and keep up her grades.
Just tell her to hang out with a mother of a baby less than a year old for one day so she can see what it is like.
She may not be willing to hear the truth about the difficulties of parenthood from you, she may need to hear it from an adult.
Does her mother know what she is thinking?
One of the hardest parts of having a baby is the pregnancy. Tell her to put something under her shirt so it looks like she is pregnant, then tell her to walk around like that in public for one day.
Not only will she look rediculous but she will hear people talking behind her back saying what a dumb sl*# and a wh*#% she is for getting pregnant at such a young age.

Answer 3

I think these things happen because they were so young so they thought that they were alredy in love with each other. They haven't seen the real world yet and may be they think that marriage life was easy but they doesn't know that that was just the beginning of the real life...
They may also be in love with each other to think stuff that they wanted to do someday but they think that today is the right time, coz they were not mature enough to think what might happen to them if they will have family at an early age... ÜÜÜ

Answer 4

It is typical behavior for teenagers in love. It will die down after a few more months. However, I would encourage her to use protection. Explain to her that after she graduates high school she can get married, have kids, and whatever (if she is even still with him). Remind her of all the fun things you guys will miss out on if she chooses to get pregnant right now (prom, senior trip, going off to college, etc..) It will be hard trying to talk to her...she is probably in her own little fantasy world right now that revolves around him.

Answer 5

right now shes obsessed with a boy that shows caring for her but trust every teenage talk like this when they have a relationship that they think is going good.Advice her and if she doesn't want to take it then when she makes a mistake she will see that is going to be hard.Right now is just puppy love.is not real love she just find someone else when she gets tired.

Answer 6

that's life sweetheart you sound like a good friend maybe u should talk to her?but it is her life at the end of the day you cant stop other peoples mistakes

Answer 7

If that's what she wants, there's really nothing you can do.