My husband of 25 years has left me for a girl the same age as our daughter. I think this is pervy what do you think?
2007-03-26 22:36:37 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends on how old your daughter is.
But if she is over 21 or so then no it isn't pervy. Some 21+ year olds are more mature than some 50 year olds I know.
Sucks for you though.
2007-03-26 22:41:35 · answer #1 · answered by Cori 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously she doing something you didn't do; probably having sex with him on a regular basis and actually doing the initiating and not saying no most of the time.
A perv? If you got married when you were around 20, that would put your daughter's/his girlfriend's age at around 25. In most states, 18 is the minimum age for consent. No matter how you slice it, 18+ is legal. Mabe not morally correct, but legal. You may not approve of it, but you need to sit back and evaluate what happened. Usually, this is a long-brewing problem on a two-way street. He obviously got fed up first.
Dump him, move on and enjoy your remaining years.
2007-03-27 02:51:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At this point in time whether or not he is "pervy" is the least of your problems. I assume the girl is older then 18, if not then I have to change my answer to yes for sure.
But ask yourself this question. Did your husband find you attractive at that age? Was it pervy then?
2007-03-27 01:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by chinamigarden 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guessing that he is at least 55 and he's dating a 25 year old? If he's Rod Stewart then the answer is he's probably not. If he's a Multi millionaire then possibly not, if he's just an ordinary Joe then maybe not. It would be interesting to find out what your daughter thinks of this.
2007-03-27 09:36:28 · answer #4 · answered by guitarcjj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God ,the age old mid-life crisis thing again. Millions of men have got to prove they still have it---desireable to the young women. Did he buy a red Corvette, yet?? Problem is the disease issue and the possibility of a baby coming from all this---so you cannot just take this lightly. It is perverted for lack of a better word--it is disrespectful for all involved, it is immature, unnecessary, and undignified. You all probably lack communications skills--unable to talk and make your feelings known. You have got to step in, issue an ultimatum immediately---that is, if you want him back. You will NEVER trust him again, You will never forget this infidelity--and finding love again will be difficult--or impossible at best. If he left, it is desertion---you can bar him from the house--and your life--get to a lawyer--get a restraining order. Get your life in order and get moving....forget the sniffles--get a grip. Personally, I would throw the bum out--life is too short and there are too many GOOD men out there looking for a real nice woman. Don't carry a grudge--he did it--not you.Take a deep breath, Relax. smile, be nice...good luck
2007-03-26 22:50:39 · answer #5 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on how old your daughter and husband are, if he's say 45 and your daughter is 25 then thats not too bad, a bit worrying but it perfectly legal
2007-03-26 22:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by poli_b2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say pervy - no. This sounds like a mid-life crisis to me!
It is kinda icky and distasteful though. If it is just a crisis he may still come home when he sees that this young girl is not the woman you are. Do you think she will cook and clean and iron for him? Fuss over him when he has man-flu?
Doubt it!!
2007-03-27 01:17:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the girl is undoubtedly a woman.... pervy, well maybe. soon to be on his own, more n likely....
young girls like older men because they have money car and the freedom... but they soon get bored... they want to party... and all johnny want is his ovaltine and bed with a good book...
i remember being 20 and going all day and all night... now im 50... and 24hr sex marathons are a thing of the past (sadly) expect him to come crawling back in a few months..
2007-03-27 14:39:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow what a jerk if i was you i would not let him see that this bothers you he will enjoy that more just try to act normal as possible when you see them or him ,start doing you hair make up an get your self some nice new outfits maybe start going out with some mates an fellers show him that you moving on ,then he might start getting jealous an you can plot your revenge on him ,most men seem to go for a younger girl at some time throw there life but end up getting dumped .
2007-03-26 22:49:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it fully depends on the age i think. but as you are asking us and not calling the cops i would say no. but i would say that its wired for a guy to just up and leave after 25 years unless something happened to make him want to change. well now that i think a little more maybe it is what is the age difference?
2007-03-26 23:54:42 · answer #10 · answered by MIKE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋